Do you truly know how to love yourself unconditionally? 

Love is the greatest force in the Universe. It is what we all yearn for. However, a lot of people find it easier to love others than to love themselves.

Being in a relationship and sharing your life with someone that you love is a beautiful feeling.

However, your relationship with yourself will always be the most important relationship of your life.

In the words of R.H. Sin, “Sometimes your soulmate is yourself. You have to be the love of your life until you discover that kind of love in someone else.”

If you're ready to cultivate a deep appreciation for all aspects of yourself, keep reading…

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What did your parents teach you about love? 

Your parent(s) and/or caretaker was the first relationship that you ever had. It set the tone for everything that you experienced in life.

Self-love is the greatest gift that parents can give their children. Ultimately, the goal of every parent should be giving children the means to know, learn and experience success and happiness. Self-love is at the root of those traits.

However, when one or both parents do not value self-love or neglect their children in some way, a child learns that love isn't safe. Even worse, a child may create the belief that he or she is not worthy of love.

Lack of parental involvement in childhood can negatively affect a child's self-esteem and create a breeding ground for an unstable self-concept in adulthood. Oftentimes, this is why adults become people-pleasers and spend their lives doing things to gain approval or validation from others.

Recently I was coaching someone who struggles with self-love. They feel as if they aren't worthy or deserving of anything. As a result, they don't feel like they can fully receive love. I want you to take a moment and reflect upon a person in your life that you love unconditionally.

What would you do for that person? Probably anything, right?

Now, I want you to think about how often you show up for yourself in the same way that you show up for this person you love. The best way to truly love yourself is to value the relationship that you have with yourself above all else. Research shows self-acceptance is the key to a happier life, but it’s also the habit many people practice the least.

I believe that everyone should have a self-love ritual that they practice daily.

If you don't love yourself, you won't have any love to give to others. If you don't take the time to fill your cup up, it is impossible to show up for others. This is a recipe for feeling drained and undervalued.

Alternatively, when you fully embrace all aspects of yourself, your relationships with others deepen and are rooted in mutual love, understanding, and respect.

Eckhart Tolle believes that each person has two parts – a human and a being. Thus, we are human beings. Your conditioning, comprised of your personality, beliefs, and values belongs to the human dimension. Your being is your heart and soul; it is consciousness.

In the words of Eckhart, “Human is form. Being is formless. Human and Being are not separate but interwoven.”

It's useful to be able to separate the two. For example, you can feel guilty and have shame around some of your behaviors, but please understand that you are NOT your behavior. Your behavior doesn't define you. If you want to deepen your sense of self-love, I encourage you to start connecting with your being side.

It's all about learning how to be in the present moment with yourself, whether that's meditating, praying, journaling, reciting affirmations, or doing mirror work. If you have never done mirror work, I highly recommend reading Louise Hay's book, Mirror Work: 21 Days To Heal Your Life.

In her book, Louise talks about her Mirror Principle, which holds that our experience of life mirrors our relationship with ourselves; unless we see ourselves as loveable, the world can be a dark and lonely place. When you engage in self-love rituals, over time your self-esteem increases and you live a more joyous and fulfilling life.

This is how to love yourself unconditionally. 

You are worthy of love and belonging. You wouldn't exist on this planet if you didn't. Make it a habit to show yourself love every single day. Be in awe of your existence because you are a gift to this world simply by being you. 

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Let's talk about sex, passion, & enlightenment.

This is Part 2 of our best relationship advice series where Tatiana and I answer your questions.

In Part 1, we talked about how to keep things exciting in a long-term relationship, how to find your perfect soulmate, and how to deal with arguments.

In this blog, we dive into some juicier topics and we don't hold back with our answers.

If you have the desire to rekindle the passion and intimacy in your relationship, read this!

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To love and be loved in return is the ultimate gift.

The test of a life well-lived has nothing to do with money and everything to do with love. One of the sole purposes of a relationship is to amplify human emotion. Whenever I've achieved big successes in my life or business, guess who I've wanted to share it with?

Tatiana!

She is the love of my life. When great things happen I want to share them with her. Being in an intimate relationship is one of the most powerful ways to grow spiritually. The experiences that Tatiana and I have shared are greater than anything else we've achieved in our lives, combined.

By no means do we have a perfect relationship. However, we've learned a lot of relationship principles over the last 7 years that we've been together. These principles have helped us create a healthy and long-lasting relationship, based on love, passion, and intimacy.

Whether you're already in a committed relationship or are still looking for love, the relationship advice that we share with you today will add value to your life. Let's dive in!

How do you improve your sex life after being together for 7 years?

First, it's important to understand the dynamics of masculine and feminine energy. What creates passion and spark in a relationship is sexual polarity. Both men and women can have masculine and feminine energy. However, each of us has a certain nature. My nature is more masculine, whereas other men's nature is more feminine.

Knowing what nature you connect with most is very important.

If you want to have passion and attraction in a relationship you need to create polarity. Opposing masculine and feminine energies, when they are truly embraced in a relationship, are what create that “spark” of sexual energy.

When it comes to our sex life, we use these energies when it's appropriate. In business, I know that I need to bring out my masculine energy. However, when it comes to our relationship, we want to make sure that we have polarity.

Tatiana's nature is to be in her feminine, so she likes to do specific things that allow her to connect with her feminine energy. When she's in her feminine, I'm drawn to her and I want to claim her. In turn, she has the desire to surrender and be claimed by me. If you're in a relationship that is missing intimacy and passion it is usually because there is depolarization.

In this day and age, a lot of women find it challenging to embrace their feminine energy. Why? Because masculine energy tends to be rewarded more in business. As an example, Tatiana is an entrepreneur who spends the majority of her day using her masculine energy.

After a long day, it can be hard for her to transition back into her feminine energy with me. This is when polarity suffers. To counteract this, Tatiana takes some solo time for herself after work. This allows her to make the transition from her masculine to her feminine energy. This may look like taking a hot shower to cleanse away the day, doing her makeup, or spending some time dancing.

It will look different for everyone.

There are certain things that you can do in your relationship that will help to elicit feminine or masculine energy in your partner. One simple practice that Tatiana and I like to engage in is eye gazing. We will sit facing each other with our hands on one another's hearts.

Sometimes we will match and mirror our breathing so that we experience synchronicity. When we do this, we can literally feel what one another is feeling. Eye gazing is a powerful practice for creating a presence with your partner and connecting with him/her on a deeper level.

When I'm looking at her I'm giving her my undivided attention. I want her to feel all of my love. In turn, she feels my presence and my energy through my gaze. The feminine is like a flower. When a woman feels a man's presence, she blossoms and dissolves into her feminine energy.

When it comes to having sex with your partner, it's important to understand that there is light and dark energy. Sometimes people will only allow themselves to bring out one type of energy. When this happens, there's a part of your and your relationship that doesn't get to be experienced.

Tatiana and I make it a priority to explore dark and light energy in the bedroom. You have to read your partner's body language and respond to what he or she is asking for sexually.

We highly recommend that you read the book Cupid's Poisoned Arrow: From Habit to Harmony in Sexual Relationships by Marnia Robinson. She studied all of the different philosophies and religions related to relationships. In her book, she shares a spiritual sexual practice called The Karezza Method.

This is a way of making love to your partner that is very slow and sensual.

When you make love with this practice, the goal isn't to have an orgasm or to ejaculate. Rather, the goal is to deepen the sexual and emotional connection with your partner through sensual touch.

Another great book is called The Multi-Orgasmic Man by Mantak Chia, which teaches you how to have orgasms without ejaculating by challenging the energy through your chakras. Tatiana and I go several months at a time without orgasming or ejaculating and we've noticed so many benefits in our relationship from doing so.

Do you get jealous if Tatiana makes more money than you, and vice versa? 

Absolutely not. We are on the same team. I want Tatiana to fulfill her potential and achieve whatever goals she desires. We don't have fear around that. I don't define my happiness, identity, or self-worth based on how much money she or I make.

If you want to learn more about Tatiana and the work that she does, I highly recommend that you subscribe to her YouTube channel and follow her on Instagram.

Over the last few years, we've done well financially to the point that we never have to work again. However, there was a time in both of our lives when becoming financially free was important. Unfortunately, that mentality made us feel that we never had enough money.

Lately, we've been working on giving up a lot of the attachment that we once had to money. Today, our mental and emotional health, spirituality, family, and relationship are our top priorities.

This is our best relationship advice on sex, passion & enlightenment.

Everyone wants and deserves to experience connection, passion, and intimacy with their partner. We hope our advice inspires you to reignite passion in your relationship or helps you to get clear on what qualities are important to you in a partner.

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Tatiana and I want to give you our BEST relationship advice.

A successful relationship doesn't happen overnight. It takes commitment, patience, and the willingness to grow, together and alone.

Recently Tatiana and I asked our YouTube subscribers and Instagram followers for their top relationship questions.

Inside this blog, we answer those questions, based on our experience of being together for 7+ years.

Keep reading to discover our best advice for building a healthy, happy, and long-lasting relationship!

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Great relationships take hard work.

My love for Tatiana continues to grow in the most beautiful of ways because we take the time to invest in our relationship. Below Tatiana and I share our answers to some of your questions about love and relationships.

We hope that these relationship tips help you to understand yourself and your partner on a deeper level. If you want to learn more about Tatiana and the work that she does, I highly recommend that you subscribe to her YouTube channel and follow her on Instagram.

On that note, let's dive into the questions!

How do you keep things exciting in a long-term relationship?

Just like any other aspect of your life, you have to constantly focus on your relationship. One thing that has helped Tatiana and me is the 6 human needs framework that we learned from Tony Robbins.

Tony believes that the following 6 needs drive all human behavior – certainty, uncertainty/variety, significance, connection/love, growth, and contribution. If you're focused on fulfilling and meeting your partner's needs at a high level, you're going to have an incredible relationship.

When a relationship is lacking passion and intimacy oftentimes it means that there are needs that aren't being fulfilled by one or both partners. What we love about Tony's framework is that it's an easy way to measure where you're at in your relationship.

In particular, which needs are being fulfilled and which ones aren't being fulfilled.

Tatiana and I engage in a weekly relationship ritual where we go through the 6 human needs and list on a scale of 1-10 where our needs are being met. If either of us scores below a 7 on any of the 6 human needs, we talk about how we can get that number to a level 10.

This ritual will do wonders for your relationship. It gives you an opportunity to connect with your partner on a deeper level and work ON your relationship, instead of IN it.

There are 3 levels to a relationship. The first level is all about you. This is a selfish way of relating.

The second level is when you're giving love to receive love. It's merely an exchange.

The third level is when you are striving to meet your partner's needs above your own. By contributing beyond yourself, your partner will reciprocate. As a result, both of you will get your needs met in the relationship.

A lot of couples fall into the trap of giving what they think their partner needs. Oftentimes, it's not what their partner is asking for. It's important to understand that your partner may feel and/or express each of the 6 human needs in a different way from you.

Each person feels love in a different way. This is why it's important to understand what your love language is, and what the love language of your partner is. If you have yet to read the book The 5 Love Languages, we highly recommend that you do.

The 5 love languages include acts of service, quality time, words of affirmation, physical touch, and receiving gifts.

As part of our relationship ritual, Tatiana and I also ask one another the following questions:

• How can I better meet your needs?
• What is great about our relationship?
• How can I better meet your love language?
• What do you appreciate about me? 
• How can we create more love and passion in our relationship? 

We also take some time to share the magic moments that we experienced throughout the week together. By reliving those memories, we are acknowledging what is working well in our relationship.

Make it your goal to figure out how you can meet and fulfill your partner's needs at the highest level. If you can do that, you'll have an amazing relationship filled with passion and excitement. Keep in mind this relationship ritual requires allocating time and attention to your relationship, in the same way that you do for your business, health, or hobbies.

In the beginning stages of dating someone, it's easy to put in the effort. Everything is new and exciting. However, in long-term relationships, people tend to get complacent. They stop making an effort to meet the needs of their partner because they feel ‘secure.'

Unfortunately, this way of thinking and behaving can lead to resentment.

From our experience, if you do what you did at the beginning of your relationship, there will never be an end.

Apart from meeting your partner's needs, it is imperative that you meet your own needs as well. Make it a priority to spend time alone. Nourish your mind, body, and spirit so that you can be at your best. This is what will allow you to be at your best in your relationship.

How can I find my soulmate?

In my early 20s, I was a dating coach. I helped men improve their confidence and social skills. The reason why I started this business is that I was extremely shy and had a hard time talking to women. That was a huge pain point in my life.

I took the time to learn about relationships and find ways to improve myself so that I could attract the woman that I desired. The first step to attracting your soulmate is getting clarity on what YOU want in a partner. If you don't know what you want, you won't know if it passes you by.

When I went through this self-reflection process, I was very specific about the type of partner I wanted to attract into my life.

I thought about what I wanted my ideal partner's physical appearance to look like, to her character traits and favorite hobbies. From the list that I created, I identified my non-negotiables.

Once you get clarity on the type of partner that you want, ask yourself the question, “Who do I need to become to attract this person into my life?” You attract what you are. Determine what the best possible version of yourself looks like and then do the inner work to become that person.

How do you deal with arguments?

Arguments ensue between couples when they are in their ego. At the end of the day, your ego is just fear. It's trying to preserve your identity and the beliefs that you have. Your ego says, “I'm right and you're wrong.”

To become a more conscious person, you have to be willing to let go of your attachment to being right. You have to be willing to look at your partner's perspective. As Stephen Covey said, “Seek first to understand, then to be understood.”

There are times when Tatiana and I disagree or get annoyed with one another. However, we never allow our standards to drop to the point where we disrespect each other. We both came from families where our parents fought with one another a lot. We made a pact that we never wanted to be in a relationship like that.

Respect is key in a relationship.

When you argue with your partner it is more of a reflection of what is going on inside of you. It's your responsibility to understand what the root of your emotional triggers are and do the work to heal them.

Whenever you're arguing with your partner ask yourself, “Do I want to be right, or do I want to be in love?” Ultimately, there's a lot of things that Tatiana and I let go of because our goal is to choose the higher path, which is love.

This is our BEST relationship advice.

Falling in love is easy, but staying in love takes commitment and work. If you put our advice into practice, your relationship has the power to grow in ways that you never thought were possible.

Choose one another. Choose love. Life is hard enough.

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Tatiana and I want to share our wedding video with YOU!

Recently I married the love of my life, my best friend and my soulmate.

There are no words to describe how happy I am to finally call Tatiana my wife. 

Many of you have been following our journey together on YouTube over the last few years.

It was important to us to share some of the magic moments from our wedding with all of you. You're a part of our family.

Keep reading for a sneak peek of some of the highlights from our special day!

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Our wedding day was perfect.

We had a small intimate wedding with our closest family members and friends. I had the privilege of saying “I do” to the woman I can't wait to spend the rest of my life with.

The moment that I met Tatiana I knew that she was the one. Her presence left me speechless. I could go on and on about how amazing she is.

From an early age, I knew the type of partner that I wanted to attract into my life. However, I also knew that I had to raise my standards and become the person that I wanted to attract.

I had to ask myself the hard question – “Am I the kind of man with who my dream woman would fall in love?”

I decided that I needed to go on a self-development journey to become the man that I would be proud of and that my future soulmate would find attractive. That was the best decision of my life because ultimately it led me to Tatiana.

Everything that I know about love I've learned from her. She is the woman of my dreams and I am beyond blessed to call her my wife. True love is the greatest gift in life. If you have found your soulmate, I wish you a lifetime of love and happiness.

If you are still looking for your soulmate, please don't give up. Work on being the best version of yourself and I promise that he or she will show up in your life when you least expect it. That's exactly what happened to me.

I hope you enjoy watching our wedding video!

You've seen Tatiana and me dating, engaged, and now married!

Thank you for being a subscriber and for joining us on our journey. We look forward to sharing many more incredible experiences with you, as husband and wife. 

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Tatiana and I are back with another couple's Q&A!

This is your chance to get to know us on a more personal level. If you have yet to watch our first couple's Q&A, check it out.

We talk about our guilty pleasures, what we are most afraid of, and the one thing that we cannot live without, to name a few things.

Inside this Q&A, we pull back the curtain and get even more personal.

Recently we asked our Instagram followers to submit their questions. We received so many that we had to film two videos so that we could answer all of them.

Ready to get up-close and personal with us? Let's dive in!

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As content creators, Tatiana and I love to inspire you.

We share a lot of advice on our social media platforms. However, it's not often that you get to know us on a personal level. Tatiana and I really enjoy doing Q&As together because it gives us an opportunity to show you another side of our personality and our lives. Let's dive into your questions!

Where do you want to settle down one day and why?

Stefan: We want to move to the U.S. The original plan was to move to California. Both of us love the weather and the beach life there. However, more recently we've been thinking about moving to Scottsdale, Arizona instead.

We would like to be close to Vancouver, Canada because we plan on spending summer times here. Vancouver is one of the best cities in the world in the summer months. Right now we are in the process of immigrating to the U.S.

Unfortunately, it's difficult to do so. The U.S. embassy has been closed due to COVID-19. There are huge delays. Eventually, we would like to buy properties in Vancouver, Arizona, and Hawaii. Tatiana and I like to avoid rain and cold weather at all costs which is why we've chosen those destinations.

What is your least favorite thing about each other? 

Tatiana: Stefan loves efficiency. If he feels like he is going to be running late, he gets grumpy and frustrated. I like to be on time, but I don't need to be early. However, our masculine and feminine energy complement one another in many ways.

I see the gift in Stefan wanting to be on time. 

Stefan: I like to plan things and be on time for everything. If we need to be somewhere at a certain time I like to anticipate how long it will take to get there. However, Tatiana takes a lot more time to get ready. When I say I'm ready, I'm ready.

However, when Tatiana says she's ready it means that she still has a few other things to do. To be honest, I need to do a better job of anticipating her level of readiness.

I love Tatiana's feminine energy. It's a gift that she brings to our relationship. I can still be efficient, without reacting or getting frustrated with her. I'm working on accepting being late sometimes and not having an attachment to being somewhere at an exact time.

How many hours did you work when you were first starting your business?

Stefan: A lot! I was 21 years old when I started my first speaking/coaching business. I was working full-time. During the evenings, I would work on my business. I had a goal that I was going to launch my business on January 1st and quit my 9-5 job.

Thus, I had a sense of urgency.

When I was 23 years old I launched my first online business. I was working 16 hours per day. One thing that I've learned about myself is that I am very comfortable being in isolation. Thus, it is easy for me to immerse myself in a task for hours on end.

The more frustrated that I got with not seeing success in my business, the more motivated I became. Once I achieved a lot of success in my business, I was working even harder than I ever was before. There were so many more opportunities that I wanted to say yes to.

Tatiana: If you want to have a successful business you have to be willing to dedicate a lot of time and energy to making it happen. In the beginning stages of my business, I was still in University and I was working part-time.

Thus, most of my hours were consumed by attending school, doing homework, or working at my job. I worked on my online business for a few hours per day. Once I quit my 9 to 5 job and dropped out of school, I started spending a lot more time growing my business.

Anywhere between 10-16 hours per day. I was hustling.

Eventually, you want your online business to get to a certain point where you don't have to invest that much time into it. Maybe that means hiring a team or putting systems in place. Otherwise, you'll always be a business operator instead of a business owner.

What is your least favorite thing about yourself that you're trying to change? 

Tatiana: I can be really hard on myself, to the point where I don't celebrate my wins enough. Also, I have some deep-rooted insecurities that emerge in my relationship now and then.

I'm very aware of them and it's something that I want to work on because it's not serving me. Our recent Ayucasha experience at the Soltara Healing Center in Costa Rica really helped me work through a lot of those insecurities.

I make progress every day. The moment that I notice my insecurities pop up from the past, I take action to question my beliefs and create new meanings.

Stefan: Sometimes I go into a selfish mode of thinking. This mindset originated when I was a kid. When I was young, I had to work for my Dad's family business. My brother and I would kick and scream every time that we had to work for him. By the time I got to high school, I became rebellious. I didn't care about the consequences. 

As an adult, I've noticed that this pattern re-emerges every now and then.

I have a dopaminergic personality, which means that I'm easily stimulated by dopamine. I can be addicted quite easily which is why I periodically reset my mind with a dopamine detox.

One of the best ways to reset your mind is to cultivate “here and now” transmitters. Lately, I've been trying to get off my computer and spend more time outside in nature. Doing so brings me back to the present moment and allows me to feel more at peace.

What has been the most powerful self-development experience of your life?

Stefan: My experience at the Biocybernat Institute was the most powerful self-development experience of my life. I did 7 days of Alpha brainwave training, 10-14 hours per day in Arizona.

I got to train my Alpha brainwaves in different parts of my brain. Simultaneously, I was able to release a lot of trauma or pain that was anchored to people in my life, experiences, or aspects of my business.

It's been two months now since Tatiana and I had this experience. The training also really helped my mental performance. Today, my thinking is more clear and I have more calmness in my day-to-day life.

Tatiana: The greatest benefit that I received from the Biocybernaut training was going through the forgiveness process. It's pretty amazing how it works. Most of us are functioning in a Beta brainwave state.

However, when you're hooked up to electrodes and you're in a high Alpa brainwave state, you're no longer subject to your perspective. Thus, you're able to raise your level of consciousness and see things from a birds-eye view.

You start seeing things for what they are, instead of how they appear to be.

Through the forgiveness process, I had to walk in someone else's shoes to understand how they experienced life. In doing so, I was able to truly have empathy for those whom I needed to forgive. It's so liberating to finally be free from the animosity that I used to feel towards specific people.

How do you keep your relationship fun and new when you both work from home?

Tatiana: We've had to be very conscious of this. We all know about the law of familiarity. If you're around someone long enough, eventually you will take him/her for granted. It's human nature.

Stefan and I have been working from home together and traveling the world for a few years now. Hence, we have been together 24/7. However, when possible we take space to do our own thing. It's important to create independence in your relationship.

I like to add variety to our relationship, whether it's date night or changing up my look. Stefan loves it when I have a new hairstyle or buy a new outfit. He is great at planning exciting things that we can do together, whether it's a great dinner spot or an outdoor activity.

Stefan: Back in the day, I was so addicted to dopamine that I always had to do something new. I was never satisfied with doing nothing. Even on dates, we used to always have to do something different. That's the dopamine addiction.

I was always wanting more.

Today, I'm trying to find ways to experience pleasure, fun, and variety. I'm focusing on experimenting with doing the same things with Tatiana, whether it's a walk by the beach or watching the sunset. Every day is a new day.

Even if we do the same things, we can still have a different experience every time. Over the last year, I've done a lot of work to reset my brain. As a result, the way that I think about things has changed.

A successful relationship is one where couples make time for intimacy. This doesn't have to be sexual in mature. Rather, it means connecting and communicating with your partner on a deeper level.

When you've been with someone for a long time, it's important that you keep reintroducing yourself to your partner, in mind, body, and spirit. Doing so will allow your relationship to thrive because you'll be constantly growing and evolving, together and alone.

That concludes Part 1 of our couple's Q&A!

Thank you for asking us such great questions. We hope that you've enjoyed our answers and have liked getting to know us on a more personal level.

If you have the desire to create financial freedom through building an eCommerce business on Amazon & Shopify, subscribe to Tatiana's YouTube channel and follow her on Instagram. Her content will blow you away and will surely inspire you.

Until next time, stay safe and God bless!

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There are 7 keys that you MUST know if you want to have a successful relationship.

Happy Valentines Day, everyone! Today is a day to celebrate love. To love and be loved is a beautiful thing.

Tatiana and I want to share with you the principles that have helped us build and maintain the ultimate relationship.

Whether you're looking to create more intimacy in your current relationship, or you're single and are ready to attract a partner into your life, these principles will be of value to you.

If you have the desire to build a successful relationship and a lifetime of love, keep reading…

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A successful relationship doesn't happen overnight.

All relationships go through ups and downs. It's natural to not think of relationships as something that you need to develop skills for, but you do. It takes patience, work, and commitment to building a strong relationship that will stand the test of time.

A lot of couples fall into the trap of getting too comfortable with one another, to the point that they get complacent. In short, they take their partner for granted and stop making their relationship a priority.

Staying healthy takes work. Raising kids takes work. Building a business takes work. Why shouldn't having a great relationship take work too? Year after year, Tatiana and I have made it a priority to give our relationship the love and care that it deserves. As a result, we've been able to continually grow, both as individuals and as a couple.

Here are some tips that will help you build a successful relationship, whether you're currently in a relationship or you're single.

Tip #1 – Know Your Attachment Style 

Do you know what your attachment style is, and what your partner's style is? If you haven't already, we encourage you to read the book Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find – and Keep – Love. Your attachment style will help you understand and explain your behavior in an intimate relationship.

Attachment theory suggests that there are three main types of attachment. Attachment styles first develop in childhood. The nature of our attachment to one or both of our parents influences the nature of our attachment to our romantic partners in adulthood.

1. Secure Attachment Style

A person who has a secure attachment style has an advantage in relationships. They are secure within themselves. Thus, they are very independent and don't feel like they need their partner to feel a sense of wholeness. They also tend to be able to effectively communicate their emotions to their partner openly and honestly.

2. Anxious Attachment Style

A person who has an anxious attachment style is more insecure and needy in a relationship. Therefore, they tend to require constant reassurance from their partner that they are loved and wanted. Their struggles can be rooted in the fear of being rejected or abandoned by their partner. Thus, the feeling of being alone or single makes them very uncomfortable.

3. Avoidant Attachment Style

A person who has an avoidant attachment style has a harder time being in relationships. They love their independence and freedom. Being in a relationship can feel like they've lost their sense of self. Thus, they may have a lot of partners but never be able to settle down with one person. Moreover, they may struggle to experience deep intimacy because they prefer to love at a distance, for fear that they will be too suffocated.

Which attachment style do you gravitate towards?

The great news is that an attachment style can change over time. If you have an anxious or avoidant attachment style, strive to move your attachment style towards one that is more secure. When both partners are secure, a relationship flourishes.

Tip #2 – Create A Compelling Relationship Vision 

Oftentimes, people enter into relationships with their own values, dreams, and desires. However, they don't communicate those truths with their partner. If your partner doesn't share the same vision as you, you're bound to experience challenges down the road.

This is why Tatiana and I believe in creating a relationship vision. Think of a relationship vision as a roadmap for what you want your relationship journey to look like. A shared vision allows you and your partner to focus your energy on creating a life together.

If you're in a relationship, I recommend that you and your partner take some time separately to reflect upon what your vision is for the relationship. What do you want from your relationship? How do you want to show up in your relationship? What kind of partner do you want to have?

Once you've gone through this process, express to your partner what came up for you, and build a shared vision together. If you're single, get clarity on what your needs and wants are. What are your “musts” in a partner? Equally, make sure that you're showing up for yourself and being the kind of partner that you want to be.

Tip #3 – Understand Love Languages

A love language reflects how you feel and interpret love. Everyone has a love language. In his book, The Five Love Languages, Gary Chapman states that there are five love languages, which include the following:

1. Gifts – giving flowers, a love note, or a box of chocolates.

2. Acts of service – doing things for your partner, like emptying the dishwasher, making dinner, or giving a massage.

3. Words of affirmation – saying loving and encouraging things to your partner.

4. Physical touch – touching your partner, in the form of hand-holding, intimacy, or cuddling.

5. Quality time – spending quality time with your partner.

What is your primary love language? What is your partner's love language is? Keep in mind that we all give and receive love in our own ways. A relationship is not a place that you go to get. Rather, it's a place that you go to give.

Be willing to tell your partner what makes you feel loved, and be willing to give your partner the love that they need. This is how you will be able to create more love and intimacy in your relationship.

In the words of Tony Robbins – “Trade your expectation for appreciation.” When you and your partner appreciate, love, and accept every aspect of one another, you can transcend your love to another level.

Tip #4 – Become Who You Want To Attract

Once you get clarity on what you want in a partner and a relationship, you have to do the inner work to attract that which you want. For example, if you want to create more love and passion in your relationship, you have to become more loving and passionate.

If something is important to you, but you fail to embody it yourself, naturally you will hope that it is given to you by someone else. For those of you who are single, ask yourself – are you the kind of person with whom your ideal partner would fall in love with?

If your answer is no, then commit to doing the work to become that person before you start dating. Similarly, if you're in a relationship, ask yourself if you're still growing with your partner, or if you've become too complacent in the relationship.

When you strive to become the best version of yourself, you will attract someone who is also the best version of themselves. That is a recipe for healthy love.

These are 4 keys for building a successful relationship, but there are more!

I encourage you to head on over to Tatiana's YouTube channel to learn about the last 3 keys. Valentine's Day is about love in all its forms.

Today, and every day thereafter, give love to people whom you care about, whether that's a partner, a friend, or a pet! More importantly, give love for yourself. At the end of the day, this is the most important relationship that you will ever have.

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I stopped having orgasms for 65 days. You might be thinking, “Why would you do such a thing? That's crazy!”

A few years ago, I would have had the same reaction. I didn't practice abstinence as a way of punishing myself.

Orgasms feel great. However, I had a bigger purpose in mind when I decided to embark on this 65-day orgasm-free journey.

Would you believe me if I told you that some of the best sex comes without orgasm? Research shows that overstimulation of the pleasure receptors can also desensitize the brain to pleasure or create a craving for more.

If you want to discover the life-changing benefits of abstaining from orgasms, keep reading!

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What is the purpose of having an orgasm?

I was originally inspired to abstain from orgasming after reading the book called, Cupid's Poison Arrow: From Habit to Harmony in Sexual Relationships by Marnia Robinson. This is one of the best relationship books I've ever read. In her book, Marnia shares what happens inside the brain when you orgasm.

An orgasm is the most pleasurable experience that a human being can have. However, it doesn't serve any utility unless you have the desire to produce a child. When you orgasm, you experience a momentary feeling of elation and a sense of relief, especially if you're stressed or anxious.

During an orgasm, a neurochemical storm is created inside the brain. Specifically, your brain releases a rush of dopamine. This is a highly addictive neurotransmitter that is responsible for feelings of pleasure and desire. An orgasm is similar to the feeling you would get if you consumed a drug, like cocaine or heroin. With every drug, will experience a high and a crash. The same thing happens when you have an orgasm.

When most men have an orgasm, immediately after they've ejaculated, they feel relaxed, drained, and tired. Women experience a similar thing, but sometimes the crash doesn't happen for a few days. If you've ever felt tired or lacking in motivation for no reason, it's highly likely that your dopamine levels are low.

A lot of people look for ways to boost up their dopamine.

They will do this by consuming pornography, eating junk food, binging on video games, gambling, or having sex. If you want to learn more about the effects of dopamine on the brain, I highly recommend you read the book, The Molecule of More: How a Single Chemical in Your Brain Drives Love, Sex, and Creativity―and Will Determine the Fate of the Human Race.

I used to have days where I didn't want to do anything. I felt lazy, tired, and depressed, but I didn't know why. Eventually, I concluded that the culprit was dopamine, which was the result of overstimulating my dopamine through sex or porn. Referring back to the book by Marnia Robinson, if you're in a relationship, it's easy to become desensitized to your partner.

Once the honeymoon phase is over, you become habituated to your partner. In her research, Marnia found that in the two weeks after a partner had orgasmed, he/she was more annoyed by their partner. A lot of couples start fighting, without even realizing that an orgasm is one factor that is contributing to their issues. This is why Marnia suggests abstaining from orgasm. If you're single, this means refraining from masturbating.

My partner and I practice The Karezza Method. This is a way of love-making without the outcome of having an orgasm. In fact, the main purpose is intimacy and connection. With a feather-like touch, the focus is on touching and caressing your partner, with slow stimulation. When you have sex in this way, it releases oxytocin. This is what allows you to feel more attracted to and connected with your partner.

A lot of sex in relationships is influenced by porn.

Unfortunately, this kind of sex can feel distant and disconnected. The end goal in the stimulation of genitals and the ‘success' of the love-making is based on whether or not someone ‘gets off'. When you overstimulate dopamine through orgasm or masturbation, you build up a tolerance for it, meaning that you end up needing more of it to experience any form of pleasure.

This is why I'm a big believer in doing a dopamine detox. When you abstain from orgasming or pornography, you reset your brain. In turn, you wake up and feel great for no reason! Since I've stopped having orgasms, my partner and I are more attracted to one another than ever before. My energy has improved, my brain is functioning better, and I just feel happier overall.

If you're a man, you may be wondering, “What do I do with all of the sexual tension that I feel from not orgasming?”

Some men encounter blue balls in their groin area. Tantra practices can really help to circulate sexual energy throughout your body, from your pelvic floor to your heart. Kegel exercises are also a great way to strengthen your pelvic floor muscles and create more control when you're making love to your partner. If you want to learn more about this read the book, The Multi-Orgasmic Man: Sexual Secrets Every Man Should Know by Douglas Arava and Mantak Chia. They've got some great content on how to use and control your sexual energy.

You may also be wondering, “Isn't it good to ejaculate once in a while?”

I've done some research and I found that this isn't necessarily true. Surprisingly, men can reabsorb semen. Also, men will usually have a wet dream if they are desiring a release. This will happen when they are sleeping.

I want to shift the conversation away from orgasming now and talk about pornography.

There are a lot of men (and women) who are struggling with porn addiction. Moreover, some men aren't even aware of the consequences of consuming pornography. When talking about this issue, I am going to focus on men. The reason being is that I am a man and have had past experiences struggling with porn. However, this does not mean that women don't struggle with pornography too.

Pornography trains your brain to be aroused through pixels on a screen. As a result, men tend to struggle to be attracted to a real woman because they are fixated on having sex, as seen in porn videos. Unfortunately, that's not real-life sex. Another negative consequence of watching porn is that men deal with erectile dysfunction. They are unable to be aroused by a woman in front of them. This can cause feelings of depression, isolation, and low self-esteem.

This is the result of overstimulation and training your brain to be attracted to something that isn't real.

There is a great book called Your Brain on Porn: Internet Pornography and the Emerging Science of Addiction by Gary Wilson. He dives deeper into the cognitive neuroscience behind Internet porn addiction and offers some great advice for those who want to stop using pornography.

The great news is that the brain is capable of changing! There is some amazing cutting-edge scientific research on brain neuroplasticity that is over-throwing outdated beliefs that the brain is immutable. The book The Brain That Changes Itself: Stories of Personal Triumph from the Frontiers of Brain Science by Dr. Norma Doidge highlights some of this research.

Pornography doesn't have to control your life for one day longer.

If you are someone who is struggling with porn addiction and are ready to seek help, there is a great community-based recovery platform for porn addiction that I recommend called, NoFap. 

There is also a free online video-based porn addiction recovery platform called, Fortify: Quit Porn For Good that has helped thousands of people get their lives back from porn addiction. Lastly, I also recommend the porn and masturbation addiction app called Brainbuddy, which helps to rewire your brain and create healthy, new synaptic pathways that free you from porn addiction.

Every area of my life changed when I stopped having orgasms for 65 days.

There are very few things in life that I've received so many benefits from and I wish I could go back and tell my younger self about. Abstaining from orgasming is one of them. I'm not saying that you should never have another orgasm for the rest of your life. Just try abstaining for 30-60 days and see how you feel.

If you're in a relationship and you've been having sex one way for a long time, why not trying something new? You can always go back to orgasming and then compare how you feel orgasming versus abstaining. Knowledge is power. You can do ANYTHING for 30-60 days if you put your mind to it.

If you are ready, I encourage you to give yourself the gift of a dopamine detox. It can change your entire life.

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Do you want to create the ultimate relationship with your partner?

Love is a choice. My fiancée, Tatiana and I have committed to deepening our love and passion for one another every day.

A great relationship requires hard work. If you want the connection with your partner to remain strong, you can't get lazy with one another.

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I am blessed to have the ultimate relationship.

However, Tatiana and I didn't magically get to where we are today in our relationship by accident. We have made it a priority to give our relationship the attention that it deserves. Doing so ensures that we continue to grow together in the same direction.

When you first meet someone, you experience what is called, the honeymoon phase. Everything is new and exciting. There's a lot of passion and aliveness between you and your partner. Studies have found that this part of the relationship is on par with the same feeling that cocaine gives you, proving that love and cocaine affect the brain in similar ways.

When the honeymoon phase dies a lot of couples get too comfortable with one another, to the point where they get complacent. If you want to have a strong and long-lasting relationship, you and your partner have to make your relationship a priority. The moment you stop is the moment that your relationship starts to suffer.

I don't ever want to take Tatiana for granted. This is why we commit to engaging in specific love rituals and principles that allow us to grow and improve ourselves and our relationship. Let's talk about 3 ways that you can create more love and passion with your partner.

1. Create a shared vision and values 

If you want to have the ultimate relationship, you have to be in alignment with your partner. A lot of relationships suffer because they lose their shared vision. As a result, they don't end up creating a compelling future with one another. If there is a misalignment in values between you and your partner, there will be challenges in your relationship.

On our very first date, Tatiana and I talked about our values and the vision that we had for our lives. Instantly we knew that we were going in the same direction. If you want to have a successful relationship, you and your partner must co-create a shared vision that is comprised of your dreams, values, and needs.

In the beginning stages of dating one another, Tatiana and I created a relationship journal where we wrote out the vision that we had for our relationship. As the years have gone by, our shared vision has changed. The relationship vision that Tatiana and I had five years ago is very different now. Today, we are looking forward to creating a family and we have a clear vision about what that is going to look like.

With regards to values, you always want to be checking in with your partner and asking what is important to him/her in the relationship. More importantly, you need to make sure that you and your partner's values are in alignment with one another.

2. Love your partner unconditionally

I view love as fully accepting your partner for who they are without trying to change them. When you love someone on that level, you give them space to truly embody who they are. This level of unconditional love opens up the doors for vulnerability in your relationship.

If you've been hurt in past relationships it can be difficult to show vulnerability because trust was broken with a previous partner or partners. I get it. However, if you want to experience true love, you have to be willing to let go of the past. The past does not dictate your future.

Yes, it can be scary to open your heart again, but when you get to a place of surrendering, that is the moment when unconditional love can enter into your relationship. In the words of Jenna Birch, author of The Love Gap, “Unconditional love is a love that has no limits… there is no score sheet or checklist. It doesn't ebb and flow. It's loving someone in spite of the ups and downs.”

3. Create and ignite passion in your relationship

A lot of couples have a strong love for one another but they end up losing the passion and chemistry that they once had in their relationship. Fortunately, attraction and passion can be reignited. The secret to doing this lies in the polarity of masculine and feminine energies. We all have masculine and feminine energy within us.

That being said, we all have a certain nature that we connect with more. Typically, men are more dominant in masculine energy and women are more dominant in feminine energy. However, there are some women whose nature is masculine and visa versa. There is no right or wrong.

When it comes to relationships, sexual attraction is at its highest when men and women are polarized. Opposites attract. If Tatiana and I are both operating in our masculine or feminine energy, there will not be as much attraction between us. This concept applies to everyone, no matter what your sexual orientation is. As Tantric author David Deida says, “All natural forces flow between two poles. The masculine and feminine poles between people create a flow of sexual energy in motion. 

Masculine energy is about focus, achievement, goal-setting, and planning, whereas feminine energy is more about flow, sensuality, creativity, and free-spiritedness. If you're a man, it's important for you to know how to cultivate masculine energy so that you are more attractive to your partner.

This may include engaging in competitive sports, working out, or being around other men. For women, this may include dancing, singing, painting, doing makeup or dressing up. It's up to you to go on a journey of self-discovery to determine what this cultivation process looks like for you.

This is the secret to creating love and passion with your partner.

A relationship cannot thrive on its own. It requires that two people come together and commit to doing the work to meet each other's needs. This is how your relationship will continue to grow in the most beautiful ways. There is no better feeling than spending your life with the person you love.

What principle will you implement in your relationship today? If you nurture your relationship, I promise that you will reap the rewards.

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Are you ready to find and attract your soulmate?

I believe that we all have a desire to experience love and connection.

My relationship with my fiancée, Tatiana is the most important thing in my life. No amount of money or success even comes close to the joy and happiness that she brings to my life.

In the words of Alexander Smith, “Love is but the discovery of ourselves in another, and the delight in the recognition.”

Your soulmate is looking for you. Are you open to finding and attracting him or her into your life? If so, I want to show you how.

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When you've found your soulmate, you know.

A soulmate is someone who is aligned with your soul and is sent to challenge, awaken and stir different parts of you in order for your soul to transcend to a higher level of consciousness. In my eyes, a soulmate is a symbol of ultimate spiritual growth. I beleive that we attract people into our lives for the purpose of our expansion.

When you're in a relationship, your deepest fears and insecurities show up. Unfortunately, when this happens, a lot of people build up emotional walls. They close off their hearts to love. In turn, these old wounds end up preventing them from finding their soulmate.

From an early age, I was looking for a special person to spend my life with. However, I wasn't always lucky in love. When I was 17 years old, I got into the self-development world because I was shy and insecure. At that stage of my life, my entire focus was on finding a girlfriend. I spent most of my early 20's single. When you have a deep desire for connection and love it can be frustrating when you keep coming up short. However, what's most important is that you don't give up.

I want to share with you the process that I went through for finding and attracting my soulmate. In doing so, I hope that it will inspire you, knowing that your person is out there, looking for you too.

1. Get clear on what you want

Start with getting clear on what your core values are in life. Make a list of the qualities that you want in a partner and determine which ones are non-negotiable. In a relationship, you don't need to agree on everything, but if there is a misalignment in values, conflict will ensue.

If you're single, use Valentine's Day as an opportunity to get clarity on the type of woman or man that you want to attract into your life. Creating a vision for who your ideal person is will make the process of finding him/her that much more exciting.

2. Determine who you need to become to attract your soulmate

Once you've determined the type of person you want to attract into your life, now you need to determine who you need to be in order to attract him/her. This is why it's so important to do the work to evolve and become the best version of yourself. You attract what you are.

We attract people at our common level of woundedness or our common level of health. Hence, if you keep bouncing from one failed relationship to another, you need to get real with yourself and determine the ways in which you aren't showing up. When you improve yourself and take responsibility for your life, you start attracting higher quality people into your world.

3. Understand your nature 

Before you can attract a soulmate into your life you need to understand what your true nature is. All of us have masculine and feminine energy. We embody these energies at different times, depending on what we are doing. However, we all feel more aligned to one type of energy over the other.

Your inner-masculine gets activated when you're taking charge and focused on your goals. Conversely, your inner-feminine is heightened when you're creating art, feeling emotions, and living in the flow of life. Whatever energy that you relate to the most is the one that you need to predominantly express when you are looking for a partner.

For years I struggled with being in my masculine because I was a very emotional and sensitive man. However, I soon realized that I wasn't able to attract a woman into my life because I wasn't embodying enough of my masculine energy. I forced myself to engage in activities that allowed me to tap into my masculine side.

When I did this, not surprisingly I became more attractive to women. Relationships thrive when there is a distinct polarity between the energies of two people. Hence, the more opposed two energies are, the higher the level of sexual attraction.

This is how to find and attract your soulmate.

Finding your soulmate is life is the ultimate reward. When you find the right person to spend your life with, nothing else will compare. Until then, I encourage you to focus on evolving and growing as a person. Think of how you can improve yourself and your life so that you are ready to invite a special someone into your life. You owe that to yourself and to your future soulmate.

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