Meditation has become one of the most important habits in my life.

It has helped to reduce my stress and anxiety and live more in the present moment.

I've never felt more connected to myself than I do when I'm meditating. Simply put, meditation has changed my life.

If you knew how to meditate, how would your life change for the better? If you're ready to live more mindfully and feel the benefits of meditation, take a deep breath and read this.

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Why should you meditate?

The global pandemic caused by COVID-19 has changed our lives forever. Isolation, job insecurity, and fear of the future have impacted people's mental health. During these uncertain times, meditation is a powerful mindfulness-based practice for finding calm amidst the chaos.

On a daily basis, the majority of your thoughts are focused on the past or the future. In this emotional state, it's easy to become a victim of your mind. Meditation shifts your focus away from these places and brings you back to the present moment.

If you've never meditated before, figuring out how to start can be overwhelming. For many years I was resistant to meditating.

Why?

I didn't understand how the process of meditation worked.

Intellectually I knew that meditating was good for me, but I couldn't connect with it. I decided to change my perspective. Instead of getting frustrated, I decided to get curious about meditation. I forced myself to meditate every day over an extended period.

Not surprisingly, I started noticing the profound benefits that meditation was having on my mental and emotional health. At that point, there was no turning back. I was hooked.

Some of the mental health benefits of meditation include better focus, improved self-esteem, and lower levels of stress and anxiety.

As an entrepreneur and overachiever, my mind is constantly moving.

I have a lot of responsibilities in my business, which can create anxiety. Meditation has helped me relax my mind, while still being productive. It's also given me more clarity and less brain fog while doing things like reading, learning, listening, and speaking to someone.

Why Is It Hard To Meditate?  

The reason why a lot of people resist meditation is that they are addicted to thinking. Your brain doesn't know how to slow itself down. Did you know that from the moment you are born, you process anywhere between 60,000 to 80,000 thoughts a day?

If ruminative thinking is familiar to you, calming your mind and sitting in silence will be incredibly challenging. When you're first starting to meditate it's natural to experience boredom.

Meditation challenges you to practice being in the here and now instead of trying to escape or avoid it. I've struggled with a variety of different addictions throughout my life, everything from video games to pornography to binge eating.

The root cause of addiction is an inability to be comfortable with being. Meditation has helped me shift from doing mode into being mode. In being mode, my mind is forced to slow down because it has nowhere to go.

In this state, I have learned how to be fully present, which has given me a heightened sense of awareness. If I have thoughts, feelings, or sensations that arise in my body, I don't feel the need to change or resist them.

Instead, I observe them in a non-judgmental way.

Meditation teaches you to watch your thoughts and feelings come and go instead of getting attached to them.

If you are new to the world of meditation, I suggest you read Meditation For Beginners by Jack Kornfield. Inside his book, he has some great guided meditations. Having someone direct and guide you through the meditation process is extremely helpful when you're first learning to meditate.

When I first started meditating, I used Headspace and Calm. These apps helped motivate me to meditate and stay on track until I had the willpower to meditate on my own.

Meditation Technologies 

Muse Meditation Headband

With the Muse headband, you listen to a guided meditation while the headband scans your brainwaves. It will identify when your mind is overly active versus when it's calm. When your mind is active during your meditation, you'll hear birds chirping.

Conversely, when your mind is calm, the birds will stop chirping. At the end of your meditation session, you can identify what your meditation experience was like and track your progress.

The Brain Tap

The Brain Tap uses frequencies of light and sound for brain wave entrainment. You wear a headset over your closed eyes and headphones in your ears while experiencing these frequencies.

Essentially, it's a guided visualization and meditation that helps your brain to experience higher levels of alpha brain waves. The visualization puts you into an incredibly relaxed state of mind.

HeartMath Inner Balance

This is a heart rate sensor that attaches to your ear. It is accompanied by an app that teaches you how to shift your emotional state and create synchronicity between your mind, body, and heart. Not only does this device help reduce your stress, but it also helps bring awareness to your breathing and heart rate throughout the day.

How To Meditate

You want to make sure that you're in a comfortable seated position, whether that's in a chair or sitting cross-legged on the floor. If you choose to sit in a chair, I recommend sitting upright so that your back is fully supported.

There are many different ways that you can meditate, but one of the most common ways is with your eyes closed. Take a deep breath and allow your body to fully relax. Do a scan and bring attention to every part of your body.

I go through this process in the video above!

If you notice any tension, focus on melting into the tension. Doing this body scan will bring you into the present moment. Once you have done this, bring attention to your breath. Don't try to control your breath. Merely watch and observe it.

Through this practice, you'll notice that your mind will start to get busy.

This is your monkey mind in action.

When this happens, it's important that you don't get frustrated and react. Your only goal is to observe your thoughts. As soon as you become aware of what your thought loops are, simply return to your breath.

While you may enjoy 5 seconds to 1 minute of pure awareness, shortly thereafter, more thoughts will arise. Again, you want to observe your thoughts and be with them. When you're meditating, certain emotions will arise as well.

I like to identify where in my body I'm feeling emotions and get curious about them. At times, the feelings will be so strong that I'll have an urge to stop my meditation altogether. However, if I sit with the emotions long enough, eventually they fade away. The same thing happens with physical sensations that arise.

This is how to meditate for beginners.

Meditation teaches you so much about yourself. It brings awareness to how you think, feel, and move throughout your life. If you're a beginner, I recommend meditating for 10 minutes per day.

Research has shown that a lot of the long-term benefits of meditation occur once you're meditating for 20 minutes per day. If you can work your way up to that, fantastic.

A daily meditation practice transformed my life and it can do the same for you. Connect to your breath and go inward. The answers you seek are found in the stillness.

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Do you truly know how to love yourself unconditionally? 

Love is the greatest force in the Universe. It is what we all yearn for. However, a lot of people find it easier to love others than to love themselves.

Being in a relationship and sharing your life with someone that you love is a beautiful feeling.

However, your relationship with yourself will always be the most important relationship of your life.

In the words of R.H. Sin, “Sometimes your soulmate is yourself. You have to be the love of your life until you discover that kind of love in someone else.”

If you're ready to cultivate a deep appreciation for all aspects of yourself, keep reading…

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What did your parents teach you about love? 

Your parent(s) and/or caretaker was the first relationship that you ever had. It set the tone for everything that you experienced in life.

Self-love is the greatest gift that parents can give their children. Ultimately, the goal of every parent should be giving children the means to know, learn and experience success and happiness. Self-love is at the root of those traits.

However, when one or both parents do not value self-love or neglect their children in some way, a child learns that love isn't safe. Even worse, a child may create the belief that he or she is not worthy of love.

Lack of parental involvement in childhood can negatively affect a child's self-esteem and create a breeding ground for an unstable self-concept in adulthood. Oftentimes, this is why adults become people-pleasers and spend their lives doing things to gain approval or validation from others.

Recently I was coaching someone who struggles with self-love. They feel as if they aren't worthy or deserving of anything. As a result, they don't feel like they can fully receive love. I want you to take a moment and reflect upon a person in your life that you love unconditionally.

What would you do for that person? Probably anything, right?

Now, I want you to think about how often you show up for yourself in the same way that you show up for this person you love. The best way to truly love yourself is to value the relationship that you have with yourself above all else. Research shows self-acceptance is the key to a happier life, but it’s also the habit many people practice the least.

I believe that everyone should have a self-love ritual that they practice daily.

If you don't love yourself, you won't have any love to give to others. If you don't take the time to fill your cup up, it is impossible to show up for others. This is a recipe for feeling drained and undervalued.

Alternatively, when you fully embrace all aspects of yourself, your relationships with others deepen and are rooted in mutual love, understanding, and respect.

Eckhart Tolle believes that each person has two parts – a human and a being. Thus, we are human beings. Your conditioning, comprised of your personality, beliefs, and values belongs to the human dimension. Your being is your heart and soul; it is consciousness.

In the words of Eckhart, “Human is form. Being is formless. Human and Being are not separate but interwoven.”

It's useful to be able to separate the two. For example, you can feel guilty and have shame around some of your behaviors, but please understand that you are NOT your behavior. Your behavior doesn't define you. If you want to deepen your sense of self-love, I encourage you to start connecting with your being side.

It's all about learning how to be in the present moment with yourself, whether that's meditating, praying, journaling, reciting affirmations, or doing mirror work. If you have never done mirror work, I highly recommend reading Louise Hay's book, Mirror Work: 21 Days To Heal Your Life.

In her book, Louise talks about her Mirror Principle, which holds that our experience of life mirrors our relationship with ourselves; unless we see ourselves as loveable, the world can be a dark and lonely place. When you engage in self-love rituals, over time your self-esteem increases and you live a more joyous and fulfilling life.

This is how to love yourself unconditionally. 

You are worthy of love and belonging. You wouldn't exist on this planet if you didn't. Make it a habit to show yourself love every single day. Be in awe of your existence because you are a gift to this world simply by being you. 

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THIS is the most important habit of your life.

Of all the habits that I've studied and applied in my life, this is the one habit that I put the majority of my attention towards.

Ultimately, the habits that you form determine the person you become. You must develop empowering habits to become your best self.

Ready to discover the one habit that has NOTHING to do with achieving success, but is still the most important habit to finding success? Read this!

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Are you nurturing your inner home? 

I don't care what your life looks like on the outside. It's not where you live physically that matters. Rather, it's where you live emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. I believe that building your inner home of happiness should be your ultimate goal in life.

The problem is that we live in a society that overvalues success and views it as the end all be all. Don't get me wrong… achieving success is great! However, if you're under the illusion that success will lead to happiness and fulfillment you're setting yourself up for massive disappointment.

This is why so many people fall into the trap of chasing success, to the point of becoming a success addict. You can still experience excitement, passion, and joy as you're pursuing success. However, that's just a massive dopamine rush.

To a certain extent, praise stimulates the neurotransmitter dopamine, which is what makes all addictive behaviors addictive. If you choose to sacrifice your happiness for ‘hits' of success, over time you'll feel empty. You have to remember that you're not a human doing. Rather, you're a human being.

If you are constantly doing you are not truly living, which is why you must cultivate mindfulness. What you experience internally is the most important thing to master in life. As humans, we can achieve a state of self-actualization through the fulfillment of basic human needs.

Abraham Maslow's hierarchy of needs is a motivational theory in psychology comprising a five-tier model of human needs. From the bottom of the hierarchy upwards, the needs are:

1. Physiological needs (food, water, and shelter)
2. Safety needs (security)
3. Love and belonging needs (romantic relationships and friendships)
4. Esteem needs (self-worth)
5. Self-actualization needs (achieving your potential)

Everyone is capable of reaching the level of self-actualization. It's the Holy Grail.

However, doing so will require that you put in the effort to meet the other 4 lower-level needs. At this stage in my life, I spend the majority of my time at the level of self-actualization. My top priority is mastering my inner world.

I still have financial goals that I want to attain, but they are not that important to me. There was a time in my life when achieving success and making money was everything to me. I had to be obsessed with achievement to get to where I am today. However, success didn't give me happiness.

I know a lot of people who have all the money in the world, but they're miserable on the inside. In my opinion, that's not living. Tony Robbins said it best – “Success without fulfillment is failure.” The quality of your life is determined by the quality of your emotions.

If you consistently feel disempowering emotions, like anger, sadness, frustration, shame, or guilt, you will never feel fulfilled. This is why I believe that the most important habit of your life is to take the time every day to experience positive emotions. This habit requires that you cultivate a high level of emotional self-awareness.

You have to intentionally tune in to how you feel and how your emotions impact your decisions in life. If you want to be happy you have to wake up every day and consciously choose to live in a beautiful state, regardless of what's going on in your external world.

How To Cultivate The Habit of Experiencing Positive Emotions

I don't care what your life looks like right now. There is always something to be grateful for IF you are willing to direct your focus towards what you love about your life.

Directing your focus is a habit. By default, your mind will always search for the negative.

Your brain isn't designed to make you happy. Rather, it's designed to help you survive. Therefore, it is constantly looking for threats to your survival. While that's helpful for keeping you alive, it's detrimental to your happiness.

The next time that you catch yourself falling into a disempowering state, ask yourself the following questions – “What is this experience teaching me? How can I use this experience to become a better person?” Don't judge your thoughts and emotions. Rather, become an observer of them.

By doing this, you'll start to realize that YOU are not your thoughts. In fact, you'll come to find out that your thoughts were never yours, to begin with. Meditation is a powerful tool for practicing the art of non-attachment. It allows you to connect with the present moment and surrender to what is.

In this state of mind, you will experience an abundance of inner peace and joy. The more that you condition yourself to feel positive emotions, the more that those emotions will become automatic. When you adopt the belief that life is always happening for you, you start to embrace every experience in your life as a gift. This is when you become truly free.

Emotional mastery is the most important habit of your life. 

Please don't spend your life chasing success. Your external accomplishments are not an indication of your happiness. Rather, strive for self-actualization. That is where you will find lasting fulfillment.

I'll leave you with these words from Steve Maraboli –“Many people strive for success to find happiness when, in fact, the inverse is true. Strive for happiness and you shall find success.”

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Are you ready to overcome anxiety and take back control of your life?

According to the National Alliance on Mental Illness, an estimated 40 million adults in the U.S. have some kind of anxiety disorder. 

If you feel like you're alone in your struggle, rest assured that you're not. I know how debilitating anxiety can be. For many years of my life, I suffered in silence.

Eventually, I hit my emotional threshold and started educating myself on ways that I could overcome my anxiety.

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This is my anxiety story. 

When I was in high school, my anxiety was so crippling that I would skip school. I felt anxious being around anyone, to the point that I couldn't even speak. It was so bad that I would rather fail my classes than stand up in front of a group of students and do a presentation.

I was anxious about anything and everything. After a lot of inner work, I was able to overcome my anxiety, with no medication. Through trial and error, I found 5  strategies that work best for me.

Don't get me wrong… I still get anxious now and then. However, I am better able to stop anxiety dead in its tracks. The reason why a lot of people struggle to overcome anxiety is that they don't heal the root cause of their anxiety.

Instead, they focus on their physical symptoms without addressing the psychological issue. When I used to feel anxious, I would look for ways to escape or avoid negative emotions. In short, I didn't want to feel.

Instead, I numbed my pain through video games. Researchers have found that using video games as a coping mechanism for anxiety predicts symptoms of gaming disorder. I received short-term relief from my anxiety when I played video games. However, it created a myriad of problems in my life, long-term.

It wasn't until I learned how to effectively feel and cope with painful emotions that I was able to heal my anxiety from the inside out. I want to help you do the same. Let's dive into 5 ways that I am able to overcome anxiety.

1. Meditation and breathwork

Anxiety is only experienced when your mind is focused on the future. The fear of what could happen keeps you removed from the present moment. It doesn't feel like it, but anxiety is designed to protect you from a danger that may occur in the future.

If you have experienced pain or trauma in your past, it's natural to worry that you may experience it again, which will cause you to feel fear in the present and imagine the worst-case scenarios.

Most often, the things that we fear never come to fruition, even though we spend countless hours feeling anxious about them. Meditation takes you away from the future and brings you back to the present moment.

The purpose of meditation isn't to try and stop your thoughts altogether. Rather, it's to become an observer of them. Every time that you notice your mind getting the best of you, bring yourself back to your breath.

The goal of meditation is to train your mind to refocus and calm itself. Give yourself the gift of silence and inward reflection each day, even if it's just 10 minutes.

I like to use guided meditation apps to meditate. Two of my favorites are Calm and Headspace. Your mind is a muscle. The more that you meditate, the less anxiety you will have.

Breathwork is an active form of meditation for releasing anxiety. Think of your mind as if it were a kite and your breath was like the wind. Taking deep diaphragmatic breathing (wind) helps to calm the mind which brings you back to the here and now.

When you engage in deep and rhythmic breathing, you activate the vagus nerve, turn on your parasympathetic nervous system, and pump the brakes on anxiety. There are two different breathwork techniques that I would recommend.

Box Breathing:

This is a powerful technique for bringing the breath back to its regular rhythm. You breathe in through your nose and inhale for 5 seconds, hold your breath for 5 seconds, and then exhale for 5 seconds. When you exhale, pause and hold your breath for 5 seconds. I recommend repeating steps 1 through 3, three to seven times.

Wim Hof Breathing:

Wim Hof is known as The IceMan. He has broken Guinness World Records for withstanding extreme temperatures and holding his breath for long periods of time. He created a powerful breathing practice that involves taking 30 deep breaths, where you inhale through the nose and exhale through the mouth.

After those 30 breath cycles, you hold your breath for 1 minute and then take another deep breath in and hold that for 15 seconds. I like to repeat that process twice. This is one of my favorite ways to relieve anxiety and put myself in an optimal state.

2. Move Your Body 

Moving your body is another great way to relieve anxiety. Emotion is energy in motion. When you change your physiology, you change how you feel. Most people feel their anxiety when their breathing is shallow.

The best way to counteract this uncomfortable physical sensation is through radical movement. I like to put on music and dance each morning. Instantly, I feel amazing.

Your body and your mind are connected. Whatever feels stuck or stagnant in the body can be released through movement. 

3. Heal Your Pain

Oftentimes, people have anxiety in adulthood because they have yet to heal their unresolved trauma. Early evidence of cellular memory shows that when we experience trauma, our brain and body’s cells hold an imprint of the traumatic event.

When a child experiences something traumatic, it is common for them to detach from their emotions as a way of coping with their pain. The anticipation of future trauma can manifest itself as anxiety because the mind and body are in a constant state of fight or flight.

Yes, trauma can change the brain, but so can healing. Even though the pain inflicted on us was not our fault, I believe that healing that pain is our own responsibility. There are many ways that you can heal trauma.

Working with a licensed therapist who specializes in trauma recovery and abuse is a great way to heal emotional wounds and turn your pain into power.

Another option is doing psychedelics or plant medicine like Ayahuasca to heal trauma. I recently had a life-changing Ayahuasca experience at the Soltara Center in Costa Rica that allowed me to heal my past trauma on a much deeper level. Only you can decide which healing modality works best for you.

4. Surrender and Let Go of Control 

Anxiety comes from trying to control things in your life. Control is an illusion. We don't have full control over anything. We have influence at best. Life is unpredictable. You may have a plan for how you want your life to look, but life doesn't always like your plans.

It will hit you with twists and turns that will force you to change course and go down paths you never thought you'd take. People get into trouble when they resist the redirection. 

The key to overcoming anxiety is learning to release the need for control. Whatever you resist, persists. When you are able to surrender to what is and trust that everything that is happening in your life has a purpose, you set yourself free.

The most painful events of my life have shaped me into the person I am today. If I hadn't gone through the worst days of my life, I would have never started investing in my personal growth, which inevitably led to me creating my dream life.

When painful things happen in our lives, it's easy to instantly judge the events as “bad”. However, when you adopt the mindset that everything is happening for you, you are no longer a victim of your circumstances.

In turn, you are better able to bounce forward from adversity and recognize an experience, either good or bad, for what it is – an opportunity to grow and become more.

If you want to learn more about what it means to surrender, I encourage you to read Michael Alan Singer's books, The Surrender Experiment and The Untethered Soul. If you want to do some deeper inner work on this subject, Michael has a great online course that I recommend called Living From A Place of Surrender.

5. Dopamine Detox

Dopamine is a neurotransmitter in our brain that gets released whenever there is an anticipation of a reward. In fact, marketers of different companies are aware of this. They get you addicted to their products by stimulating your dopamine levels.

Dopamine is healthy and natural. It's what gives us motivation. However, the problem is that we live in a world that is constantly overstimulating our dopamine levels. Whenever you have a spike in dopamine, there will always be a crash.

This manifests itself as a dopamine hangover. It can take almost two weeks for your brain to normalize after you've experienced a dopamine spike. When you come down from a dopamine spike, your dopamine levels are low. This can negatively impact your mood and create long-term mental health challenges. 

The solution to all of this is doing a dopamine detox. Cutting out and/or eliminating whatever is stimulating your dopamine is key. This is what allows your brain to reset itself so that anxiety and depression dissipate. 

This may mean spending 24 hours or more without technology. I use a screen time blocker on my phone and computer. This allows me to limit how much time I use certain apps. For example, I give myself 30 minutes max scrolling on Facebook and Instagram.

Keep in mind that you will experience withdrawal symptoms when you're detoxing from dopamine. You'll feel worse before you feel better. As you are resetting your biochemistry, it's helpful to create an empowering morning ritual.

A morning ritual will help you stay energized, focused, and motivated.

For the last 15 years of my life, I've been studying the rituals of the most successful people in the world. I've compiled these rituals into a book that I wrote called 67 Morning Ritual Habits For The Body, Mind, and Spirit so that you can benefit from them. A lot of these rituals will help relieve your anxiety so that you can take back control of your life. 

If you want to reprogram your mind and take your life to the next level, I've got a 7-day Morning Ritual Mastery program that shows you how you can model the most successful morning rituals of the most successful people in the world. The program consists of daily video lessons, downloadable MP3 audios, and worksheets.

These are 5 ways to overcome anxiety.

You don't have to live with anxiety forever. Do the inner work to get to the root cause of your anxiety and trust that you have the power to heal yourself. There is life on the other side of anxiety and it's waiting for you with open arms.

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Have you ever had a bad day?

Who hasn't!? Bad days are a normal part of life. You can't be happy 100% of the time. It's just not realistic.

Sometimes we need to experience bad days so that we can appreciate the good days even more.

Where people get into trouble is when they associate bad days with a bad life.

You can take a bad day and revamp it so that it becomes something of value. It all comes down to the perspective you adopt.

Keep reading to find out how you can turn your bad day into a good one.

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Let's face it… life is filled with highs and lows.

You have a bad argument with your partner, you spill coffee all over your shirt before a big meeting, you lose a big sale, or get an expensive speeding ticket. Life happens at the worst of times. The trick is to not let these low moments ruin your entire day.

There will be days when you feel like you just can't win. Maybe you won't be able to bounce back as quickly as you like. It doesn't mean that you're a failure or that life is out to get you. Quite the opposite. It means that you are human.

Your job is to learn how to become the master of your emotions so that the small problems don't become big problems.

When your emotions get the best of you, a bad day can start to feel like a bad life. The earlier you catch yourself spiraling, the quicker that you can do something about it. The only thing that you have control over is your reaction to what happens to you.

From my experience, the easiest way to shift how you feel is to change where you are.

Research shows that a change of scenery often helps signal to your brain that the current mood doesn’t need to be sustained. Go for a walk, go to the gym, drive to the beach, listen to a podcast, jump on a rebounder, or clean your house.

Anything that allows you to clear your mind and process things from a different state of mind is key.

This is why I'm such a big believer in having a morning ritual. I've been practicing rituals for 15 years. It's the single most powerful thing that I've done to change every area of my life.

When you take time every day to nourish your physical, mental, and emotional state, you are less likely to be triggered by stressors. More importantly, you are better able to access a more optimistic perspective on life.

Just like your physical body needs attention, so too does your mind. Becoming the master of your mind is a skill that is learned through repeated practice. Rituals help your mind and body stay in peak condition so that you're able to turn your bad days into good ones more quickly.

When you feel your best, you do your best.

When I reflect back on some of the ‘bad days' that I've had, I've come to realize that those were just bad moments. By doing the inner work to not become a victim of my mind, I've learned to move forward faster.

When I feel my mood start to shift in a negative direction, I immediately ask myself – “How can I turn this problem into an opportunity?” All of the sudden, I start priming my brain to look for the good. I focus on what is working instead of what is not.

By changing my emotional state, I change my behaviors. This means that I'm able to get back on track quicker. Don't let a bad morning or afternoon dictate how you're going to feel for the rest of your day.

You have the power to turn a bad day into a good one.

The next time that you're feeling down, look at yourself in the mirror and remind yourself, “It’s not a bad life, just a bad day.” That simple shift in thinking will set you up for success.

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This is my Biocybernaut review where I talk about how I biohacked 40 years of meditation in 7 days.

Tatiana and I recently took part in a 7-day brain neurofeedback training at the Biocybernaut Institute in Sedona, Arizona. 

This was one of the most powerful self-development experiences I've ever had. I was given the unique opportunity of biohacking my brain waves.

Dr. James Hardt is the founder of the Biocybernaut Institute and one of the original inventors of EEG feedback technology.

Keep reading to discover the life-changing benefits that I received from this brain training!

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This was my experience with 40 years of meditation in 7 days.

The Biocybernaut Institute is the gold standard in neurofeedback training. As many of you know who follow me, I have been heavily invested in self-development for the last 17  years. I will try anything that has the potential to enhance my life. If something benefits me, my mission is to share what I learn with you, in the hopes that it will improve your life in some way.

That is why I do what I do. I've invested hundreds of thousands of dollars into my self-development, in the form of training programs, seminars, coaches, consultants, masterminds, and live events. Not to mention that I have read hundreds of self-help books.

I can confidently say that my experience at the Biocybernaut Institute is the most transformative thing that I have ever invested in. That is saying a lot. I discovered the Institute a few years ago from friends who shared the life-changing benefits that they've received from going through the training.

Some of them have even done the training multiple times! It is that powerful. My mentor, Tony Robbins gives a great Biocybernaut review of his experience going through the training. I encourage you to watch if you're interested in attending it one day.

Benefits of Biocybernaut Training

Dr. James Hardt has conducted scientific studies that confirm that participants who go through his 7-day neurofeedback training experience the following benefits:

• 50% increase in creativity
• +11.7 point increase in IQ (stable 12 months out)
• +15.8 increase in EQ (stable 12 months out)
• A calmer mind and less anxiety
• Heightened consciousness, greater self-awareness
• An increase in peak performance and flow states

If you want to go deeper and learn more about the science behind this treatment and the benefits outlined above, I encourage you to check out the Biocybernaut Publications and the Biocybernaut Technical Papers.

The Five Brain Wave States

• Delta – Restorative sleep, dreaming
• Theta – Lucid dreams, limited consciousness
• Alpha – Alert, but physically and mentally relaxed
• Beta – Awake and alert
• Gamma – Intense focus and concentration

Every thought and emotion that you have is experienced at a certain brain wave state. After studying Zen meditators from all over the world, Dr. James Hardt discovered that people who meditate for 20-40 years have higher levels of alpha brain waves.

He was able to recreate that same pattern of the alpha brain waves in his biofeedback training, thereby helping people biohack 40 years of meditation in 7 days.

Neurofeedback Training Explained

At the Biocybernaut Institute, you train for 10-14 hours a day over a 7-day period. They attach gold-plated electrodes to different parts of your brain so that they can read and see where your alpha is coming from and to what degree.

Most of our alpha comes from our occipital and frontal lobes. They put you in a sound-proof chamber where you spend the majority of your time. Inside the chamber, there are speakers all around you.

When your alpha goes up, they start playing various sounds or tones. Based on where the alpha is being increased inside your brain, you will hear different tones.

As your brain starts hearing these different brain waves from inside the chamber, your brain gets rewarded for it.  As a result, this triggers the production of more alpha in your brain. This is how neurofeedback works.

Most people experience these different brain waves but we don't get to measure them, nor do they get to receive feedback when these states go up and down.

Studies that have been conducted at the Biocybernaut Institute have found that a higher level of alpha reduces negative emotions; like anxiety, stress, anger, and worry. 

At the Biocybernaut Institute, they integrate the 14-step forgiveness method into their training program.

This is the most beneficial part of the program and was life-changing for me. Through his research, Dr. James Hardt found that trauma suppresses our alpha levels. A traumatic experience can still affect you on a subconscious level, regardless of the amount of inner work that you've done to heal from it.

Therefore, the purpose of the forgiveness method is to help people release subconscious trauma. The only way to accomplish this is by being in a high state of alpha. When you're inside the chamber, their technology reads your EEG alpha activity to see whether or not your painful thoughts are suppressing or increasing your alpha.

If the machine finds that if your alpha is suppressed, you go through a forgiveness process of the people who wronged you to understand why they acted the way that they did.

From there, they ask you to take some time to reflect upon the gifts that came from the painful experience that you endured. As you go through this forgiveness process, you are raising your alpha brain waves and restoring balance to your brain's electrical patterns. 

I hope that my Biocybernaut review has inspired you to biohack your brain! 

Again, my experience at the Biocybernaut Institute was life-changing. It has allowed me to access higher levels of consciousness, among many other amazing benefits.

What is unique about this training is you're doing something that is having a permanent effect on you in real-time. Even better, anyone who has done the training says that the benefits continue to increase 6-9 months afterward.

How amazing is it that someone like Dr. James Hardt has created technology that allows us to biohack our brainwave patterns and inner peace?

Do yourself a favor and add this experience to your bucket list!  When you change your brain waves, you change your life.

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How would it feel if you could be happy every single day?

I'm not saying that it's not okay to have bad days. Life happens. However, a lot of people struggle to find happiness.

Herein lies the problem. In today's world, happiness is marketed as a goal in and of itself. The line of thinking is, “If I buy this, I'll be happy.”

You can't buy happiness. Rather, happiness is something that you cultivate internally through daily practice. The ability to feel happy every day is a lot easier than you think.

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Happiness is elusive.

It's an emotion that we may get a glimpse of at different times in our lives. However, it isn't necessarily something that we feel consistently. Inside this blog, I want to bring attention to why I think this happens. More importantly, I want to help you train your brain to feel more happiness daily, without having to do anything to access this emotion.

What if happiness wasn't something that you had to pursue, but rather, something that could follow you? The reason why people don't experience happiness is that they have rules about what has to happen for them to feel happy.

For example, some people will say, “I'll be happier if I start making $100,000 per year.” What tends to happen is that once this person gets closer to their desired target, they move that target further away. They'll say to themselves, “I'm making $100,000 yet I'm still not happy, so I have to hit 1 million dollars now.”

Other people experience happiness without having to work for it. There are no rules or conditions in place. If you ask this person what has to happen for them to hit the target of happiness, they might say, “I wake up and I realize that I'm alive! It's a waste to not enjoy and appreciate this incredible gift that I've been given.”

The latter person has beliefs that allow them to feel happy consistently.

The richness of what you focus on determines the richness with which you feel life. The way I see it is that, if we want to experience true happiness, we have to stop taking our lives for granted. Appreciation for the small things turns what we already have into enough.

Why is this way of thinking such a difficult concept for people to grasp and implement? Well, we are conditioned to expect something outside of us to make us happy – a fancy car, a new home, a high-paying job, a partner. If you wait for something or someone to make you happy, you're going to be miserable.

Nothing is ever going to be enough. Happiness is not outside of you. Rather, it's a state of mind, but you have to learn how to cultivate it. The quality of your life is determined by the quality of your beliefs. Check-in with yourself – do your current belief systems empower or disempower you?

If you're holding onto self-limiting beliefs that are preventing you from moving forward in life, my invitation to you is to do the work to reprogram your thoughts. Write a new list of rules of what has to happen for you to feel happy. For example, “I feel happiness anytime that I smile” or “I feel happiness anytime that I focus on the good in my life.”

Happiness isn't the reward for the sacrifices that you make to be successful. When you make it a priority to cultivate happiness, naturally you will have more energy, excitement, and passion to pursue your goals and dreams. You can't take action to change your life for the better if you feel miserable.

This is the TRUTH about how to be happy every day.

Commit to re-writing your happiness rules and give yourself permission to create a life of happiness, joy, and fulfillment. Happiness is always with you and it always follows you.

Regardless of whether or not you have achieved all of your goals, you still have so much to be happy about. Decide to be happy right now, no matter what. Give your life the gift of happiness, contentment, and inner peace.

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Are you afraid of failure? If so, don't beat yourself up! Let's face it. Nobody enjoys failing.

However, it is near impossible to move throughout life without experiencing “failure” at some point.

It's natural to want to run away from the very thing that could sabotage your success.

Nevertheless, if you're not failing, you're not trying. The good news is that you can leverage your fear and make it work for you.

If your fear of failure is holding you back in life, keep reading to discover the one key to never fail again…

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Failure does not exist.

Yes, you heard me correctly. Failure is an illusion. It is not real, meaning that it's something that you create in your mind to keep yourself safe. In effect, you make yourself fail by imagining the worst-case scenarios.

Your ego tries to convince you that you're a failure. If you choose to believe this voice, you will do anything to prevent yourself from being a “failure.” When something happens, you have a choice of how you want to interpret it.

If your expectations aren't met, it's easy to associate failure with that event. Even worse, a lot of people go one step further and internalize failure. Their life story becomes, “I'm a failure.”

They may tell themselves that they aren't good enough or that they aren't deserving of success. The feeling of fear may consume them, so much so that they purposefully engage in self-defeating behaviors. In short, they forget that a failure is an event, not a person.

If you internalize your efforts to achieve your goals and interpret them as a personal failure, your self-doubt and stress activate and strengthen your brain's involuntary neural networks. The result is that your brain is less effective at managing emotions and solving problems.

When you try something new, you will be naive about the process because you've never been through it before. This isn't a bad thing! You don't yet know the challenges that you will inevitably face along the way (that's just how life works). Life will throw you curve balls that you don't expect. You cannot control these curveballs, but you can always control how you respond to them.

What causes fear of failure?

Oftentimes, one's “failures” trigger wounds from their childhood that have yet to be healed. As an example, it is common for children who experience trauma in childhood to internalize the trauma and create fear-based rules for thinking and behaving. If these wounds aren't healed, their fears carry over into adulthood.

They attempt to avoid any potentially harmful situation that they associate with their past hurts. As you can imagine, this way of living holds them back from achieving success in life.

Here's the thing… everything that you think and feel is a direct result of a meaning that you attach to an experience. Your reality is unique to YOU. Everything in life is neutral until you show up and decide what it means to you. I know this may be hard to accept, but it's true. It's easy to forget that we are in control of how we think and feel.

If you define something as negative, that’s the message your brain receives and responds to by creating an emotional state to reinforce that reality. Once you expand your awareness and accept that you choose the meaning that you give to all things in your life, you give yourself the power to decide your emotional state.

In the words of Tony Robbins, “Nothing in life has any meaning other than the meaning you give it.”

If you perceive things that happen to you in life as failures you will get caught up in the negative emotions associated with that. This is a surefire way to spiral and stay stuck in one place. When you change the meaning that you give to something, you change your life. In short, meaning is everything.

One of the most famous “failures” of all time was Thomas Edison. He “failed” over 10,000 times before he successfully invented the lightbulb. He realized that every failed attempt provided him with invaluable lessons, new discoveries, and opportunities for growth. In many ways, he succeeded BECAUSE he failed.

The Key To Never Failing Again

The key to what I like to call “failing forward” is twofold.

First, you need to realize that failure does not exist. Once you accept that truth, failure loses its power over you. Second, never forget that, in every experience of life, there are incredible opportunities for growth. Failures are merely lessons to learn from.

It sounds counterintuitive, but the more that you fail, the closer you are to achieving the success that you desire. Don't think in terms of limitations. Rather, think in terms of possibilities. This mindset shift will catapult your growth. What can you learn from your failures? Look for the assets that will move the needle forward.

I believe that everything in life happens for a reason. Your challenges are presenting you with an opportunity to become stronger. If everything in life happened the way that you thought it would, you would be bored out of your mind. You would be constantly seeking variety.

Every time that you experience something in life, whether it's good or bad, I encourage you to ask yourself, “What did I learn from this?” When you take this approach, you will start to embrace failure and make it work in your favor.

THIS is how to never fail at anything ever again.

Loss is merely an illusion. You cannot always control what happens in life. However, you can always control how you interpret and respond to what happens to you. If you can master this, you will never have to worry about failure.

Every experience will become a blessing, which will contribute to your success. In the words of Wayne Dyer, “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”

Now is the time to get real with yourself… Why are you afraid of failure? Get curious. The truth will always set you free.

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I stopped having orgasms for 65 days. You might be thinking, “Why would you do such a thing? That's crazy!”

A few years ago, I would have had the same reaction. I didn't practice abstinence as a way of punishing myself.

Orgasms feel great. However, I had a bigger purpose in mind when I decided to embark on this 65-day orgasm-free journey.

Would you believe me if I told you that some of the best sex comes without orgasm? Research shows that overstimulation of the pleasure receptors can also desensitize the brain to pleasure or create a craving for more.

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What is the purpose of having an orgasm?

I was originally inspired to abstain from orgasming after reading the book called, Cupid's Poison Arrow: From Habit to Harmony in Sexual Relationships by Marnia Robinson. This is one of the best relationship books I've ever read. In her book, Marnia shares what happens inside the brain when you orgasm.

An orgasm is the most pleasurable experience that a human being can have. However, it doesn't serve any utility unless you have the desire to produce a child. When you orgasm, you experience a momentary feeling of elation and a sense of relief, especially if you're stressed or anxious.

During an orgasm, a neurochemical storm is created inside the brain. Specifically, your brain releases a rush of dopamine. This is a highly addictive neurotransmitter that is responsible for feelings of pleasure and desire. An orgasm is similar to the feeling you would get if you consumed a drug, like cocaine or heroin. With every drug, will experience a high and a crash. The same thing happens when you have an orgasm.

When most men have an orgasm, immediately after they've ejaculated, they feel relaxed, drained, and tired. Women experience a similar thing, but sometimes the crash doesn't happen for a few days. If you've ever felt tired or lacking in motivation for no reason, it's highly likely that your dopamine levels are low.

A lot of people look for ways to boost up their dopamine.

They will do this by consuming pornography, eating junk food, binging on video games, gambling, or having sex. If you want to learn more about the effects of dopamine on the brain, I highly recommend you read the book, The Molecule of More: How a Single Chemical in Your Brain Drives Love, Sex, and Creativity―and Will Determine the Fate of the Human Race.

I used to have days where I didn't want to do anything. I felt lazy, tired, and depressed, but I didn't know why. Eventually, I concluded that the culprit was dopamine, which was the result of overstimulating my dopamine through sex or porn. Referring back to the book by Marnia Robinson, if you're in a relationship, it's easy to become desensitized to your partner.

Once the honeymoon phase is over, you become habituated to your partner. In her research, Marnia found that in the two weeks after a partner had orgasmed, he/she was more annoyed by their partner. A lot of couples start fighting, without even realizing that an orgasm is one factor that is contributing to their issues. This is why Marnia suggests abstaining from orgasm. If you're single, this means refraining from masturbating.

My partner and I practice The Karezza Method. This is a way of love-making without the outcome of having an orgasm. In fact, the main purpose is intimacy and connection. With a feather-like touch, the focus is on touching and caressing your partner, with slow stimulation. When you have sex in this way, it releases oxytocin. This is what allows you to feel more attracted to and connected with your partner.

A lot of sex in relationships is influenced by porn.

Unfortunately, this kind of sex can feel distant and disconnected. The end goal in the stimulation of genitals and the ‘success' of the love-making is based on whether or not someone ‘gets off'. When you overstimulate dopamine through orgasm or masturbation, you build up a tolerance for it, meaning that you end up needing more of it to experience any form of pleasure.

This is why I'm a big believer in doing a dopamine detox. When you abstain from orgasming or pornography, you reset your brain. In turn, you wake up and feel great for no reason! Since I've stopped having orgasms, my partner and I are more attracted to one another than ever before. My energy has improved, my brain is functioning better, and I just feel happier overall.

If you're a man, you may be wondering, “What do I do with all of the sexual tension that I feel from not orgasming?”

Some men encounter blue balls in their groin area. Tantra practices can really help to circulate sexual energy throughout your body, from your pelvic floor to your heart. Kegel exercises are also a great way to strengthen your pelvic floor muscles and create more control when you're making love to your partner. If you want to learn more about this read the book, The Multi-Orgasmic Man: Sexual Secrets Every Man Should Know by Douglas Arava and Mantak Chia. They've got some great content on how to use and control your sexual energy.

You may also be wondering, “Isn't it good to ejaculate once in a while?”

I've done some research and I found that this isn't necessarily true. Surprisingly, men can reabsorb semen. Also, men will usually have a wet dream if they are desiring a release. This will happen when they are sleeping.

I want to shift the conversation away from orgasming now and talk about pornography.

There are a lot of men (and women) who are struggling with porn addiction. Moreover, some men aren't even aware of the consequences of consuming pornography. When talking about this issue, I am going to focus on men. The reason being is that I am a man and have had past experiences struggling with porn. However, this does not mean that women don't struggle with pornography too.

Pornography trains your brain to be aroused through pixels on a screen. As a result, men tend to struggle to be attracted to a real woman because they are fixated on having sex, as seen in porn videos. Unfortunately, that's not real-life sex. Another negative consequence of watching porn is that men deal with erectile dysfunction. They are unable to be aroused by a woman in front of them. This can cause feelings of depression, isolation, and low self-esteem.

This is the result of overstimulation and training your brain to be attracted to something that isn't real.

There is a great book called Your Brain on Porn: Internet Pornography and the Emerging Science of Addiction by Gary Wilson. He dives deeper into the cognitive neuroscience behind Internet porn addiction and offers some great advice for those who want to stop using pornography.

The great news is that the brain is capable of changing! There is some amazing cutting-edge scientific research on brain neuroplasticity that is over-throwing outdated beliefs that the brain is immutable. The book The Brain That Changes Itself: Stories of Personal Triumph from the Frontiers of Brain Science by Dr. Norma Doidge highlights some of this research.

Pornography doesn't have to control your life for one day longer.

If you are someone who is struggling with porn addiction and are ready to seek help, there is a great community-based recovery platform for porn addiction that I recommend called, NoFap. 

There is also a free online video-based porn addiction recovery platform called, Fortify: Quit Porn For Good that has helped thousands of people get their lives back from porn addiction. Lastly, I also recommend the porn and masturbation addiction app called Brainbuddy, which helps to rewire your brain and create healthy, new synaptic pathways that free you from porn addiction.

Every area of my life changed when I stopped having orgasms for 65 days.

There are very few things in life that I've received so many benefits from and I wish I could go back and tell my younger self about. Abstaining from orgasming is one of them. I'm not saying that you should never have another orgasm for the rest of your life. Just try abstaining for 30-60 days and see how you feel.

If you're in a relationship and you've been having sex one way for a long time, why not trying something new? You can always go back to orgasming and then compare how you feel orgasming versus abstaining. Knowledge is power. You can do ANYTHING for 30-60 days if you put your mind to it.

If you are ready, I encourage you to give yourself the gift of a dopamine detox. It can change your entire life.

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