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If you're ready to live an incredible life, these 10 secrets will allow you to master anything.

Since I was 17 years old I have been committed to self-mastery.

To be the master of yourself is to fully understand who you are and take responsibility for your own life.

Unfortunately, I see a lot of people invest way too much time and energy into mastering the wrong things. As a result, they are left feeling lost and unfulfilled.

From my experience, I have found that are only 10 areas of life that you must master if you want to achieve happiness and success.

If you're ready to take control of your destiny instead of hoping for the best, read this!

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Every aspect of your life works together.

Life is not structured. Rather, it is a dynamic process that is constantly changing. I believe that happiness is a journey that is rooted in the mastery of many different facets of life.

I've identified six areas of life that I believe are important to master. By bringing awareness to these areas, you can determine where you are falling short so that you can work to improve them over time.

1. Physical Body

Your body is your temple. You experience everything in life through your body. If you don't master your body, you're going to have a compromised experience of life. Everything that you want in life is going to require an abundance of energy.

2. Mental and Emotional Well Being

The quality of your life is determined by the quality of your emotions. You can have everything on the outside, but if you don't feel fulfilled and happy, you'll be missing out on life. Emotions are habitual. We all have an emotional home.

You need to condition the emotions that you want to experience. I like to differentiate mental well being from emotional well being. Oftentimes, people struggle to experience emotions because they are too busy living in their heads.

One of my favorite sayings is, “Live in your head, you're dead.” When you overthink things, it inhibits your ability to appreciate all that life has to offer. Your head is great for making rational decisions, but your heart is where love, gratitude, joy, and happiness are found.

3. Relationships 

The purpose of relationships is to amplify our experience of life. You don't want to go through life alone. You can achieve all the success in the world but if you don't have someone you can share your life with, you'll always feel like something is missing.

Who you decide to spend your life with is one of the most important decisions you'll make in life. Also, you need to learn how to attract the right people into your life, otherwise known as an empowering ecosystem. Once you attract these people, you've got to learn how to communicate with them effectively.

4. Career/Business 

Your work needs to give you a sense of purpose in your life. I don't look at what I do as a job. Rather, it's my mission. When I use that kind of language, it amplifies my experience of it.

You'll spend one-third of your life working so you may as well make sure that you're doing something that you love.

5. Financial Abundance

You must master your finances. A lot of people don't have a healthy relationship with money. They're intimidated by money, so much so that they don't know what to do with it. You want your money to work for you.

Money is a tool. It can give you more time, help you build lasting wealth, or be a vehicle to make a difference in the world. When you know how to use money, you'll have a better experience of life.

6. Spiritual Well Being

This is the most important area of my life. My connection to God transcends everything else. I believe that I've been put on Earth for a reason. My spiritual connection with God gives me a deeper sense of meaning.

It helps me to think beyond myself and live with honesty, integrity, and ethics. Nobody has any evidence when it comes to spirituality, but we all have faith. If you wait for physical evidence you'll be limiting your experience of life.

Each of these 6 areas of life is important. The question is… how do you master these areas?

These are the 10 secrets to mastering anything in life. Let's dive in!

1. Make It A Study

Whatever it is that you want to master in life, you have to make it a study. Unfortunately, our school system doesn't help us master the important areas of life. Instead, they place value on learning school subjects, like Science, Math, and English.

Unless you want to be an Engineer, Scientist, or Mathmetician, it won't benefit you to master these subjects. Don't get me wrong… there is great utility in learning how to read and write.

However, we are taught a lot of things in school that have zero application to the real world. I wish the school system prepared us to master core life skills, but that's not the case. You can't depend on the education system to teach you these things. Schools teach knowledge, but life requires wisdom.

Find people who have already mastered whatever it is that you want and learn from them. If you want to have an amazing relationship, find people who have an amazing relationship and be around them. Make them your role models. If they have a book or a course, consume their knowledge.

Similarly, if you want to be successful, make success a study. If you want to build a great business, study entrepreneurship and learn the principles of business from successful people. It's all about compressing time.

One of the best ways to master anything is to put yourself in proximity with someone who has the results you desire. Over time, you'll take on their beliefs, values, and mindset.

I make it a mission to attract and connect with successful people. When I do, I make it a priority to ensure that they feel appreciated. In effect, I do things to show that I care. In turn, that same care is reciprocated by them and the relationship is built.

2. Go Deep

If you want to master anything you have to eliminate all distractions and go deep. Most people stay at the surface. They do something for a while but don't stick with it long enough to master it.

It's similar to swimming in the ocean. A lot of people want to swim on the surface. When you're on the surface, you can enjoy the sun and there is less pressure. However, you're not getting the full experience of being in the ocean.

Other people want to scuba dive. By going deep into the ocean, they experience an entirely different world. Yes, there is more pressure and risk by going deeper. However, trust me when I say that the rewards far outweigh the risks of doing so.

Keep in mind that any time that you learn something new, at first you'll feel incompetent. Naturally, this may make you feel insecure. It takes time to get competent at something before you start achieving the results you desire.

There are 4 levels of learning. The first level is unconscious incompetence. This is when you suck at something, but you're not even aware that you suck at it.

The second level is conscious incompetence when you're aware of your incompetence. By knowing where your weaknesses lie, you know what you need to work on.

The third level is conscious competence. This is when you understand and know how to master something.

The fourth level is unconscious competence. This is the definition of mastery. You're doing something without even thinking about it.

3. Repetition 

If you want to master something, you can't do something once or twice. Rather, you have to repeat something, again and again. In the words of Bruce Lee, “I fear not the man who has practiced 10,000 kicks once, but I fear the man who has practiced one kick 10,000 times.”

Mastery can feel boring, but you have to embrace it. There's a great book that I suggest you read called, The Talent Code (this link will direct you to the Amazon website). In his book, Daniel Coyle talks about the neuroscience of repetition and why mastery involves deep practice. When I read a book, most of the time I'm learning about something that I already know.

However, this is a good thing! The more that you learn something, again and again, the more that you strengthen that knowledge within yourself. Every time that you use repetition to focus on something, your neurons are firing together and wiring together. This is how habits are formed.

4. Embrace Discomfort

Discomfort is a core part of the learning process. You want to intentionally make it harder on yourself so that you can grow faster. You've got to push beyond what you are comfortable with.

For example, when I was single and trying to master my social skills I would go to nightclubs by myself. When you're with your friends, it's a lot easier to approach women.

By putting myself in a loud environment, I had to learn how to project my voice and communicate with women using my body language. By intentionally stretching my comfort zone, I built up my confidence faster.

5. Fully Immerse Yourself In Your Learning

Immersion is one of the fastest ways to master anything. When you just do something once in a while, it takes forever for you to master it. Conversely, if you fully immerse yourself in learning for a specific period, your growth will skyrocket.

An event or a retreat is a great way to practice immersion. It's like learning a new language. If you want to learn Spanish, you can take a class once per week. Conversely, you can go to Spain or Mexico and immerse yourself in the culture. You'll learn so much faster taking this route.

6. Measure Your Progress 

When you measure something, you're consistently putting your attention on it. If you're focusing on something consistently and you encounter a setback, you can easily do something that day to change it.

People fall short on their goals because they are measuring them less frequently. In the words of Peter Drucker, “You can't manage something if you don't measure it.” Whatever you're trying to pursue, the more that you measure your progress, the more you'll notice it.

7. Reward Yourself 

Whatever gets rewarded, gets repeated. You have to celebrate your progress. Most people don't see their progress because they're not measuring it. You have to look at what you're getting from the actions that you're taking.

Whenever someone says that they've failed at something, I know that they are only focusing on one part of the story. They aren't looking at what they've learned and gained. If you focus on the skills, wisdom, and work ethic that you've acquired in the pursuit of something, you merely fail forward.

8. Break Past Plateaus 

Whatever it is that you want to master, there will be a point when you hit a plateau. Plateaus are a part of the journey. Therefore, you must anticipate plateaus. When they show up, you can't be caught off guard and let it derail you.

You've got to take a step back and analyze what it is that you're doing. Look at things from a different perspective. The level of thinking that got you to where you are, is not the same level of thinking that will get you to where you want to go. You can't be so attached to a specific way of thinking and being. Rather, you have to stay open to everything.

9. Be Patient 

Mastery takes time. It doesn't happen overnight. Patience is a virtue, especially in a world where we are conditioned to get everything in an instant. People have such a short attention span because they have overstimulated their brains with dopamine.

Thus, they can't stick with something long enough to master it. In his book, Outliers (this link will direct you to the Amazon website), Malcolm Gladwell expressed that it takes 10,000 hours to master something. That's roughly 10 years.

I've been a YouTuber and an entrepreneur for over a decade now. Mastery is a commitment to never-ending improvement. I've put in my 10,000 hours, but I'm not going to stop. I know that I can always get better at what I do.

10. Pay It Forward and Teach Others 

If you want to master something, teach it. Share what you're learning with others. It will force you to learn it at a deeper level and live what you teach. Early on I decided that these 10 areas were so important to me that I wanted to make them a part of my business.

As a result, I have been forced to learn more about how to improve every part of my life. I pay forward everything that l learn and master. I am constantly raising my standards so that I can be a role model for others. That is why I started Project Life Mastery.

These are 10 secrets to mastering anything in life.

If you can master these 10 keys, you can do anything. Mastery is a journey, not a destination. There is always something to learn and unlearn along the way.

Keep showing up and keep growing into the person you desire to become.

What is one area of your life that you're committed to going deeper with? Follow these 10 secrets and you'll get there!

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Secrets Behind Peak Performers: How To Create A Heroic Alter Ego To Transform Your Life https://projectlifemastery.com/peak-performers/ https://projectlifemastery.com/peak-performers/#respond Wed, 17 Apr 2019 22:00:41 +0000 https://projectlifemastery.com/?p=10030 I interview Todd Herman, author of the book, Alter Ego Effect, about the secrets of peak performers. Ready to create your own heroic alter ego? Click here!

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Have you ever wondered how peak performers are able to master success?

For the last twenty years, Todd Herman has been helping the world's top peak performers do just that.

While I was at the Traffic and Conversion Summit I had the opportunity to sit down with Todd and talk about his new best-selling book, The Alter Ego Effect: The Power of Secret Identities to Transform Your Life.

He shares the secrets of peak performers, deconstructs what the heroic alter ego is, and talks about how you can tap into your own alter ego.

If you are ready to take your performance to the next level, this is an interview that you don't want to miss!

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Peak performers have mastered the art of execution.

Todd Herman has mentored Olympic athletes, CEOs, public figures, performers, and leaders tap into their “alter egos.” He teaches people strategies and tools for how they can master their mental game so that they are able to compete with confidence and win at life.

The path to peak performance looks different for everyone. However, there is one thing that all peak performers have in common – they have mastered their craft by mastering their mindset. Studies of peak performance by K. Anders Ericcson have shown that it takes about 10, 000 hours of study, practice, and preparation to become an expert. This has now been shown across multiple fields of performance.

In my work, I have had the pleasure of meeting and interviewing a lot of peak performers.

A common theme I've noticed is that they thrive in life because they have committed to practicing daily mental habits of success. When times get tough, they refuse to give up. They bring their “A” game to everything that they do and strive to be the best that they can be. Here is a sneak peek of my interview with Todd Herman where we talk about how to create a heroic alter ego to transform your life.

Do you mind sharing your story and how you’ve been able to work with some of the world’s top performers?

I live in NYC now. However, I grew up on a farm and ranch in Western Canada. When I was younger I loved sports. I was always trying to keep up with my older brothers. Over the course of time, I excelled at a couple of different sports. I managed to get myself a college football scholarship and played football for a few years. I'm not a physically gifted person. I'm not 6″4 and 250 pounds. My greatest superpower was my mental game approach.

I played bigger than I was. After I finished playing I started coaching young athletes. These people started getting great results. Eventually, that transformed into a successful business. I developed the mental strength that I have today from a really bad experience that I had when I was 12 years old. I was sexually assaulted by two men over the course of a couple of days at a church camp. That experience ruined me. I had so much shame and guilt. When I was growing up I attempted suicide multiple times. I didn't share anything with anybody for over 31 years.

A year a half ago, I told my wife and good friend that I was sexually assaulted.

I was grabbing onto anything that would help me navigate my way through life. Over time, I created an alter ego. It helped me suspend my own disbelief about what I could do in order to get out of my narrative and step into a different self. This is what allowed me to continue doing the things that I wanted to do. There are a lot of people in this world who have experienced tough times in life which is why they've been able to relate to my story

A lot of people carry around layers of fear and trauma that hold them back. While they may know that it doesn't serve them, they don't know how to release themselves from it. If you hold onto a disempowering narrative it is impossible to move forward in life. However, when you start using your creative imagination, you give yourself permission to tap into the person who you really are.

This is the moment at which you are able to shift yourself out of a disempowering narrative. You are inside the bottle of your own life. Because of this, it can be really hard to read the label. By playing with different identities, you can shapeshift and start getting the things that you want. It's important to know that this doesn't mean that you are inauthentic or deceptive. Shapeshifting is all about you untapping the aspects of yourself that are already present.

Sometimes we have a tough time seeing ourselves do something.

However, we are still able to see other people do it. There is actually a powerful frame that you have found that you can use to perform at a higher level. The reason why I've been so successful working with people to transform their levels of performance is that I don't invent new things. I'm simply trying to find an existing phenomenon that lives inside of the psychology of how humans are built. Once I accomplish this, I strive to leverage it.

I've helped pro athletes, executives, and leaders all around the world develop alter egos. There isn't a continent that I haven't touched. I ask people if they are willing to accept a new idea of what they can or cannot do. If they are willing, I can work with them. If not, they stay trapped where you are. It's impossible for you to act and create a result if it wasn't already inside of you.

There is a great quote that I share in my book from Cary Grant. He said, “I pretended to be somebody that I wanted to be and I became that person, or he became me, but we met at some point.”

Our only superpower as human beings is the creative imagination.

It's the one thing that truly separates us from other beings on the planet. We have the power to create new selves all of the time. I'm not trying to fix broken people. This is a terrible paradigm for helping people. I treat people as whole beings. My job is to peel away all of the stuff that no longer serves you so that you are free to become the person you've always wanted to be.

How can people activate their heroic alter ego?

The first place to start is the context. You are always building an identity for a field of play. This is the healthiest thing that you can do. What I'm about to say will confront some people's beliefs about what it means to be a whole self. For the longest time, the world of psychology held the belief that people with optimal mental health were those who had a single self that they identified with. The reality is that we have a single body. However, my body carries many selves.

The multiple self-theory is now the fastest growing area of study n psychology. It is now understood that the people who have and identify with multiple identities, based on context (ie. me as a business person, friend, husband, etc.) are the people who have good mental health.

I work with high-achievers and high-performers all day long.

I bring out my challenger personality when I'm working with clients and trying to break old paradigms and push them forward in life. However, the last thing that my children want is a challenger personality when I get home. How do you think that works for people when you bring that self home? It creates a ton of problems. Your wife or husband isn't going to like it. They want fun and playful Dad. I know that those qualities live inside of me. If I don't, I instantly defy what it means to be a human being.

In the 20 years that you’ve worked with peak performers, what are some key beliefs that you’ve observed?

The alter ego helps us show up in full form. One of the top soccer players in the world has been a client of mine. He has a fundamental frame of mind that he's offended by the people who show up on the field. He believes that they shouldn't be sharing the grass with him, so to speak. He's not saying this in the press conference. However, he believes this to be true.

Because of this belief, his line of thinking is, “I am going to destroy you on the field.”

When you think about this mindset in the context of performance, it definitely helps him perform at a peak level. He has a fantastic ability to live in context. On the pitch, it worked for him. However, when that attitude spread outside of the field into his personal life, it didn't work so well. I helped him evolve that identity into being more than just who he was on the field.

Entrepreneurs fall prey to this as well. They only describe themselves as entrepreneurs. Is that all of your identity? I'm an entrepreneur, but I'm also a Dad, a lover, and a husband. There are so many people that I get to be.

How do peak performers develop an unwavering belief in themselves and their abilities?

I've come across a lot of people who could easily be the best in the world at their craft. However, there is some sort of block that they have that holds them back. All they are doing is chopping down their own tree and diminishing their confidence. Peak performers constantly up level the people around them. They understand that having great quality people in their lives is only going to help serve them in moving forward.

The dumbest decision that I made was wanting to climb the mountain of success on my own.

I wanted to plant that flag at the top and show everyone else that I could do it. It was stupid, slow and arrogant of me. It wasn't until I got into mentorship at a young age that I got it. I realized that it was so much easier and more enjoyable. I could pick up the phone and call someone who has already done what I want to do.

Harvey Dorfman was my mentor. He's known as the Yoda of baseball. One of the greatest mental game coaches ever. He wrote the Bible of the industry. I tucked myself under his wing for 33 days. He started passing me pro clients almost immediately. It would have taken me a lot longer to create that kind of success. Even more, I got to see him work with some of the biggest pros of all time. All of a sudden, I started seeing what their big issues were. It wasn't even the stuff on the field. Rather, it was 80% of their mental game.

You want to surround yourself with great people.

When I was leaving the farm my Mom said to me, “Whatever you want to do, just find whoever is the best at it and learn from them.” I've always had that mindset. It's how I choose the vendors, suppliers, and partners that we work with. Having amazing mentors and allies is very important.

However, you've also got to do the internal work to grow and become more.

The root of this concept was first penned by Marcus Tullius Cicero, who was a great Roman philosopher and statesman. In 44 B.C., he wrote a letter to a friend and said, “The alter ego is the other eye or trusted friend.” The alter ego becomes the ally that helps you go and do!

Can you share your thoughts on the importance of goal-setting?

Everyone knows why goal-setting is important. Over the course of 90 days, in the context of one area, you should only have one goal. This is what will allow you to organize so much of your focus, time, and resources. The enemy to performance is more. Working on 8 different projects or starting 3 different businesses is impossible. This will never get you to where you want to go. It's about subtraction, deletion, and removal. Move towards one goal. This will help you make a decision around your other projects.

Can you tell people more about your 90 Day Year program?

The 90 Day Year program is what I use with athletes to help them scale up their skills fast. I focus on the one skill that, if we worked on this, is going to bring your performance up by a magnitude of many degrees. Most athletes work at multiple skills at once. This ends up slowing you down, whereas focusing on one skill is powerful. When I started getting asked to work in the corporate world, I saw how many things people were working on.

I realized that I needed to help these people strip things away.

Inside our program, we start with a diagnostic that runs through the 5 main pillars of business – marketing/sales, products, operations/technology, finance, and people/leadership. Every business has these pillars. We ask people questions about each pillar. The powerful part of this process is that you start to diagnose for yourself what is the most important thing for you to be working on in your business.

The moment it becomes your idea, you will own it. However, if I'm telling you to do it, you may argue against it. Peak performance is about developing a plan of action from where you are standing right now. This allows us to plot a path forward, for you. Success is all about sequencing – doing the right thing at the right time.

What inspired you to write your new book?

I've been working with the concept of the alter ego for 16 years now. It was always my secret sauce. It's what I've been known for in the elite sports industry. I told a mutual friend of ours, Tucker Max about my idea. He said that I was an idiot if I didn't write a book. I'm dyslexic which is one of the big reasons why I never wanted to write. It took me a few years to unpack it and put it together but I'm happy I did. I ended up signing with Harper Collins. My editor is a superstar and he pulled a great book out of me.

Are you ready to create a heroic alter ego to transform your life? 

There’s only one person in the way of you unleashing your true potential in life, and that person is you. Get out of your own way so that you can become a peak performer in every area of your life. The hero inside of you is waiting to be unleashed. Now is the time to step into your power and become the best version of yourself.

In the words of Todd himself, “Our ability to truly tap into our creative imagination so that we can do the things that we most want to do, or experiment with different parts of our self, is truly unique to us and an alter ego helps to untap that.”

Are you ready to activate your heroic alter ego?

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